(Closed) Would you prefer to know the details?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: If your DH told you he had a lap dance, after you asked him not to, would you ask for more details?
    Yes : (69 votes)
    66 %
    No : (36 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
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    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I would not want to ask for more details—but I know I would anyway.  And then I would feel worse and be twice as pissed off.  As long as you know he didnt have sex or touch anyone inappropriately, I would leave the gory details alone!  The more you know, the more it will drive you crazy.

    Post # 5
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    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’m not for strip clubs, but knew my husbands brothers and cousins would take him to one. All I told him is to behave, and want no details. He and his friends respected that. So no, less you know, better. Same vice versa for your bachlorette party.

    Post # 6
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    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @kay01:  I think the rule at most strip clubs is that the guys are not allowed to touch the girls, the girls dance on them while they sit there.. I dont know for sure because I have never been to a strip club but I think that’s how it goes.  I would be mad that he got a dance after he told you he wouldnt, but at the same time I am pretty impressed that he told you the truth about it. 

    Post # 7
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    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At any classy strip club, he would be thrown out for touching. So lets just assume he went to a classy one and not ask for details?

    I am a sucker for punishment and would ask for all details, and then throw up cause it would upset me so much. Lol!

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @kay01:  its crazy i would def ask but why?!? when ive been in that situation with EXs they never told the truth anyways. thank God my FH hates strip clubs

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @kay01:  im fairly sure you arent allowed to touch strippers no?

    so i think id ask for details…but id expect to be confirmed that there was no inappropriate touching

    Post # 13
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    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @kay01:  I totally agree with you!  I dont think its right at all.  The thought of my man getting turned on by someone else makes my blood boil! lol  And trying to justify it because its a bachelor party?  I dont think so.  I have read other threads where some people think its fine because its a “bonding” moment for guys or because all some guys do is knock back a few beers, maybe play pool while the strippers are doing their thing.  Um.. why do half naked women need to be involved for guy bonding?  And why not go to a regular bar to drink/play pool?  It seems completely backwards to me.. you are getting ready to commit your life to one woman so in order to celebrate that, lets look at other naked women?? 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @kay01:  then i might not ask hes probably embarrassed and feel bad as it is about it i always say its the grooms men you gotta worry about there always pushing but if he hates them kinda places i’m sure he respected you by behaving himself.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  +1 i dont like it but i know my FH will behave himself so im going to have to kinda deal with it they might go or might not go ; ( i trust him so im ok with it i know he wond be getting any dances ; ) he hates stripp clubs

     

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @newname_99:  depends on what state and county but like here in florida its pretty much full contact ; ( its so sad

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