Post # 1
I met a good friend for lunch today, and we got talking about TTC and babies in our lives. She joked and said if you were pregnant this SECOND, “it would suck, because it would be born in December! And in your family December has soo many birthdays! ”
What do you all think? Would you purposely time a pregnancy around something as ‘little’ as that month having a lot of brithdays already? I know women who plan for summer holidays if they’re a teacher for exmaple, but I don’t think I’ve heard “I’m putting off TTC this month because I don’t want the baby born in XX month, because there’s already so many in my family born that month.”
Post # 2
I wouldn’t, no.
I’m really sensitive to people raising their children to think that they’re incredibly special. I’ve been a CCD teacher and a nanny and it’s so obvious when a child has always been pampered like that.
What’s next? No, we can’t have your birthday party at the bowling alley, there have already been six birthday parties at the bowling alley this month and yours won’t be special? Blasphemy!
Post # 3
Many women (including me) are not fortunate enough in the fertility department to choose a specific month. But, yeah, my sister chose each one of her children’s birthday months. I found it obnoxious =P
Post # 4
I think that’s funny that she thinks you can time pregnancy!!
Post # 5
If women could time pregnancy, thered be alot less heartache on the TTC boards
Post # 6
We skipped a month during TTC so that I could go to my BFF’s wedding, so I would make small adjustments for something really important to me. Not for a birthday, though! (Unfortunately I have had pregnancy complications and won’t be able to attend BFF’s wedding anyway, so you just can’t plan, really!)
Post # 7
Well, I’m on maternity leave now because I had my baby at the beginning of Feb. Only for the reason that I live in the midwest and I will have off through the end of April and right as the weather gets nice I’m back to work. I wish I would have had a May baby to enjoy the summer, or fall baby to have off for the winter holidays (an impossibility when you work in healthcare), but it is what it is.
Post # 8
I have heard the suggestion to avoid having a winter baby – apparently it’s a bit harder on the system since the days are so short anyway, lack of Vitamin D, etc. And I am definitely going to try to work it so I have summer plus maternity leave (either on one side or the other of summer break). But to avoid a certain month b/c everyone else was born that month? A bit odd to me. Only part I would understand is that December birthdays tend to get lost in the shuffle anyway, so it might be nicer to have a day in a month with less going on.
Post # 9
I know I am being unreasonable and ridiculous but I really did not want a Sept baby. I was good with any month that didn’t land me in September. So we started trying asap in October. This baby will be June/July 🙂
Post # 10
I know of some teachers who try this. Like aim to have a baby in May or June so they can have the whole summer with their baby. I work as I teaching assitant and would have loved it. But not in the cards for us. We tried for 13 months with fertility treatments to get pregnant. Life does not always work out the way you plan it too. I’m due with my first in November.
Post # 11
Yes. We have a January baby and it was really stressful over the holidays and I had preterm labor and bedrest. We are going to ttc when LO turns one but will be skipping the months that could lead to a December or January baby
Post # 12
No – I mean as a teacher I would love a May baby, but we’re having trouble TTC to I’ll take a baby any month.
Post # 13
I tried to have a spring/summer baby…My first two pregnancies worked out, July and May. They both ended in miscarriage. I just found out I am pregnant again, due in December. Awful timing but I am BEYOND thankful!!
Post # 14
Thank you all, ladies! That’s what I assumed too. I have been a long time lurker on here, and notice how long women struggle for; ANY month would be a good month!
I chastised her slightly, and she said she “actually never thought about it that way” that women struggle far more than what sex ed in our awful highschool thaught us (You WILL get pregnant the FIRST time you have sex no doubt about it).
Congratulations to you all who have gotten a LO, and ‘baby dust’ to those still waiting. 🙂
Post # 15
Let me say that as a teacher bee I will be *attempting* a spring/summer baby BUT I certainly won’t stop TTC when the time comes to avoid certain months. No way Jose.