(Closed) Would you purposely time pregnancy for a specific month?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

As a teacher, I would try to avoid having a baby in August or September if at all possible. I am not TTC yet but will be within a year or so. Certainly it might turn out that things don’t go as planned, but I DO have a preference. I don’t really think it’s fair to poke fun at someone who feels that way just because some women struggle with infertility. People make their own unique parenting decisions all the time and if someone wants to try to have a baby in a certain month…what does it really matter?

Post # 17
509 posts
Busy bee

any month would be a blessing!! but yeah if i wasn’t struggling and i was lucky enough to get pregnant by the smell of it, why the hell not! def wouldnt be prego over summer haha

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  FutureMrsTY.
Post # 19
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes I’m going to shoot to conceive between June to January so I can avoid a winter baby. I can get bad seasonal depression and I fear ppd. 

Post # 20
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My mom has always joked I should try to not have an August baby. I was born in August, and she said being so pregnant during the heat of summer was miserable. Personally though I wouldn’t care, as long as I was able to have a healthy baby!

Post # 21
46 posts

As a pastry chef, I would definitely aim to avoid having a baby November/December since all bakeries are extremely busy that time of year and need all hands on deck. My boss had an oops baby and gave birth five days before Thanksgiving…lets just say it was crazy and not something I’d like to see a repeat of. That being said, if at all possible I would prefer a late summer baby to avoid all major holidays and most of “wedding season”.

Post # 22
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Miami

tribbles:  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with aiming for a certain month, for any number of reasons (say your husband is a teacher and you’d like to give birth during the summer so he can be home with you, for example). But of course not everyone gets pregnant as soon as they start trying so you can try to plan but there are no guarentees.

Post # 23
191 posts
Blushing bee

We delayed TTC by one month so our baby couldn’t have a Christmas Day birthday. It seems a bit silly, but I know a couple of people with Christmas birthdays who hate it. If it had taken us over a year to TTC, I wouldn’t have stopped for the second Christmas… I would have been happy with a baby at any time by that point. 

We have lots of birthdays within October in our family, so when I found out our baby was due in October I was excited that she might share a birthday with someone else! I think it’s nice sharing birthdays, but not so much Christmas because then you have to share with *everyone*.

Post # 24
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

tribbles:  I am a teacher. I wanted to have my second child in either April, May or June because then I would be able to spend as much time as possible with him/her before I went back to school. I had my first child in August and I was only allowed to be with him a couple months before I went back to work. I was very lucky that I got pregnant with my daughter exactly when I wanted to. She was an April baby. 

Post # 25
368 posts
Helper bee

tribbles:  We sort of did (I am currently pregnant). We started TTC because 9 months later it would be the most ideal month that would affect my job the least (so we figured why not). However, we never expected to actually get pregnant right away and would not have stopped if we didn’t.

Post # 27
144 posts
Blushing bee

We plan to try for an August-October baby for the sake of avoiding my sports season as taking a year off would likely make it difficult to find a team again. I know there’s a good chance it wont work out so we’ll either say screw it to the plan or wait another year.

Post # 28
341 posts
Helper bee

tribbles:  I think it’s fun when families are all born in similar months. My immediate family were all born within about a month and a half of each other. Same thing for my SO’s immediate family. I actually think it’s so cute!

But really, anyone who cares whether their baby is born near their birthday or not “because there are so many birthdays in that month” seems like someone who needs a hobby.

I will probably try to time a baby to make the timing slightly more convenient for my schedule, but I’ll really just be hoping for a happy, healthy baby.

Post # 29
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think it would be ideal for me to be due in the winter (in the future, not TTC or pregnant!) because that is the slow time in my work season. But at the end of the day we’ll see when we get there! I probably wouldn’t stop TTC at a certain point either if it meant a summer baby! 

Post # 30
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

my son was born the day before my november birthday. then straight into thanksgiving. if i weren’t having fertiliity issues, i would have definitely skipped november to avoid having a second child with a birthday in the same month as us and right before the kick off of the holiday season. and part of me is approaching ttc a little half heartedly this cycle because christmas baby doesn’t appeal to me either. so no, not skipping altogether, but would probably be 5% less disappointed than previous months. 

if you are fortunate enough to be able to time things, then i don’t see anything wrong with trying to aim for specific months/seasons no matter how frivilous your reason. as long as you also understand that things don’t always go according to plan.

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