Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
DH owns a buisness. a family buisness where he travels quite often. I do as much as i can to contribute to this. i take vacation to go with him once a year for a few weeks. i go on weekends sometimes. i enjoy it but its hard work. i have a job here at the hospital. recently i was laid off. we talked about it and decided that i would continue to work seperatly. luckily i got a job at the same hospital. two weeks into it he changes his mind and wants me to come work with him. I cant taint my career by leaving after two weeks. so i decided to quit for good next year in april. but hes still hinting at it. like you can still give your two weeks and come with me. so tempting but why couldnt he decided this when i was inbetween, not at the beginning.
which brings me to the question: would you ever quit your job if he asked you to?
another question: would you ever work with your DH/SO?
we have worked together before. and it is hard having him be the boss (even when we are partners: you know men). but just curious.
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Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I would not quit my job if he asked. I would be offended.
I would not work with him, either. NO thank you!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
souza_2005: No to both. I’ve worked hard to get and start my career and I love it. I wouldn’t just leave it to do something else. Now, I would quit if DH got an amazing job opportunity in another city/state, but I wouldn’t quit to work with him. I love DH very much, but we need our separate careers.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
No, but he’d never ask. I work only part time since I’m a full time student and he’s totally jealous of my free time.
ETA: if we had a child and he wanted me to stay home with him/her, and we could afford it, sure. But otherwise no.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
No to both. I have aready been in the position of not having any skills to support myself and my children when I left my first husband. It is important to me to continue to be independent as far as being able to provide a living for myself and my children is concerned.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Nope I would never quit my job and thankfully my FI would never ask me to. I also would never work with him. I love him to death but we need our separate careers.
If God forbid we should break up, I would want to be able to stand on my own two feet without resorting to moving in with family or friends. We are not having kids so I don’t need to wrry about that aspect.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
No and no. I love my job and I love that we have separate jobs. I could not work with my spouse, especially if he was “the boss.” No thank you!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
souza_2005: ah, dang sorry i answered the poll before reading through the post! lol
I thought you meant if SO asked me to quit to stay home all day LOL. No i would not quit to work with him in a heart beat. It would defnitely depend on the money situation and how it compares to my current job. I like my current job, so it would have to be the money situatuin being beneficial to us both that would make me quit.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
He would never ask. I know this because in the 12 years that we have been together, he has never once asked me to put him before my job. And if he had never asked for the small things like “can you skip out early to do x, y, z” then I doubt he would ever ask for the big things like changing or quitting my job. Would I do it if he asked me? It would depend on his reasons, but maybe, and only because, as I just said, it would have to be something really really crazy for him to ask.
Would I work with him? Yeah, sure, no problem. Would I work for him? Not likely, no.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
It depends on what job I had and what I would be doing, but I would look at it as a possibility. we are together all the time anyways. I think it would possibly be nice, but maybe I am the minority here.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
I would and I did… but it wasn’t that he asked me to so much as it was that my job was dead-end, was making me miserable and it was impossible for me to look for a new job putting all those hours in. Additionally, my husband and I are trying to start a business, which required a lot of time from both of us. On top of that, he started a new job that he totally loves and that requires a lot more mentally from him than his previous job.
Our potential business was doomed to fail if both of us were working jobs that required 110% of both us. So we made the decision that I would quit to focus on getting as much prepped as I can for the biz before going back to a full-time gig (if I even have to.) He has no interest in leaving his job and it’s been great to be able to support him in having a new endeavor while I also work to create something for us as a family. We’re not sure if the biz will get off the ground or not, but we both wanted to give it a good shot and couldn’t do that while both working.
I will say that we talked about me leaving my job for 4+ months before I finally pulled the trigger. It was a very emotional decision for me, but I’m really happy so far.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I never thought I would work with my SO or would like it until we ended up doing it. I got hired at the company first, then they needed someone with his talents. He started a month later in a different department. It has worked out well, we only have one car so we get to carpool. We get to have lunch together and have some good talks to and from work. He does work in a different building so I don’t always see him all day, every day. I don’t think this is something to decide before it happens. This should be a converation between the two of you to figure out what’s best for your family.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
leisha606: you know.. its really interesting and an odd situation but working with him would mean i would have pretty much most the winter off. but we would work pretty much all day every day in the summer. its a seasonal thing. so im tempted by the fact that we can do what ever we want and go where ever we want in the winer type of situation. no asking work for time off to be with my family for christmas. unlimited vacation in the winter. but he thinks together we would make a lot more money for the buisness. but right now i have insurance and he does not. we would have to figure something out and that scares me too.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
souza_2005: No, I went to university for nearly 6 years to train to work in my field and I earn good money and enjoy my job. It would have to be a business in my area of interest for me to even consider it. Working with DH all day though is not appealing to me as I like to come home with new stuff to talk about from our days apart at work etc.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
souza_2005: I’ve been in the same dead-end job for the past nearly 6 yrs so assuming he had enough moolah to support us both, then ya I’d have no problem quitting! I can imagine going back to school part time or just getting started on babies.. But if he wanted me to just up and quit after starting a new job less than a year ago, heck no. Part of the reason I am still in this dead-end job is because we are considering moving next year and I don’t want to ruin my chances with any companies by getting a job & then leaving them high & dry…
We did work together and it was good, I would totally do it again, we have very complimentary but distinct skill sets & ways of thinking. It has served us very well in our relationship & working lives….
