Post # 1
So I decided I don’t need the proposal to be a surprise. I would love for him to tell me the exact date that he is going to do it. Now he could surprise me maybe and give me the ring a day earlier but at least tell me the very last date it will happen. Valentines day weekend is the cut off for me. It is going to tear me up inside if I don’t get a ring for Christmas but I will try and wait till Valentines day. Anyone say screw the surprise just tell me so I can stop freaking out, stressing out, and trying to read into everything little thing you say?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
I thought it was a total relief finding out what day my fiance was going to propose, personally. I found out accidentally (based on when we were scheduling a trip to visit friends; I wanted to do it after we were engaged), and though I only found out a few days before I feel like it really took away a lot of my anxiety. It was still an amazing proposal: even though I knew when it was coming, I had no idea HOW he was going to propose, and it was perfectly “us”.
Good luck: I know how anxious you can get when you know it’s coming but you have no idea WHEN!
Post # 4
I know it’s coming and might I say, I’ve been a VERY good waiting bee, very chill and nonchalant about the whole thing since he first told me it was being made…
but on the inside I’m like “just tell meeeeeeee!!!”” “Is it done yet?!” “Are you going to do it immediately or wait?! Please don’t wait!!”
Post # 5
I have a general idea of when it’ll happen and that is all he’s willing to tell me and all I’m willing to push for. It’s easy for me to forget about it if I don’t know when it’s happening. I go crazy counting down to my birthday every year; there’s no way I’d remain normal counting down to the proposal!
Post # 6
even though its been 5yrs, i still want the suprise factor. i dont even know if he has a ring (hes talked about rings this yr, but thats all i know) no idea when or where. i can only gather that its a good chance it will happen over the holidays. i think knowing every detail just takes away from the proposal.
Post # 7
I just want to know if it will be before 2013 comes. he can keep the rest a secret. actually i would take the exact date too i’m going crazy
Post # 8
I’m satisfied knowing it’s gonna be fairly soon after he graduates (which is Fall 2013) so I’m hoping for my 22nd birthday (January 2014) but he said like January or February and I already have my ring (it was anniversary/ Christmas/ birthday gift and is currently a promise ring)
Post # 9
I picked out the ring so I want the surprise factor of the proposal!
Post # 10
Don’t you think it will take the wind out of his sails if you know? The proposal is about the man as much as it is the woman. Let him have his moment.
Post # 11
Ugh! I hate ruining surprises or other people who ruin the surprise for me. BUT I do catch myself trying to ask him about it. So yeah I’m a bit of a hypocrite. I’m glad though he hadn’t ruined it for me.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
My SO has never surprised me with anything in our whole relationship…SO I AM REALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS!!!
I get so excited for everything. It is actually really exciting. I go out and we have a good time no matter what. I let him have his secrets now. Please! Please, do not tell me who you were on the phone with! (I know it was a dude) I will not ask you about that erand you are planning to run. Yes we can go do something completely random I know you wouldn’t have wanted to do 3 months ago.
This is so much fun! It can happen at any time!!!
Post # 13
A timeline was important for me. I wanted to make sure we were on the same page as far as when we wanted to get married, and then when we’d want to be engaged and begin planning. I also picked out my ring. But that is all the part I want. I don’t want to know what exact day it will happen, nor how. I can wait! I want some surprise factor, especially since I’ve been so involved with everything else.
Post # 14
I don’t need to know when, but I just want to know if he’s picked out and bought the ring. I would feel so much less anxious if I knew he had gone that far into the process and was just waiting for the right time to pop the question. Personally I think that after 7 years he has lost his chance for a surprise, but SO loves surprises so I’m trying to be patient. I want the proposal to be exciting for him too.
Post # 15
The suspense is literally killing me… I’m sure of it. He knows that I LOVE to know the details about EVERYTHING happening around me. I have no control over this and I feel like I’m just whithering away.
Okay, I’m being dramatic.
The only saving grace I have is the fact that we have a wedding date and a contract on the venue. It makes it feel a little more real and less like a “thought”.
Post # 16
I definitely want to be surprised with both the proposal and the ring, but I would like to know when it will be… doesn’t have to be the exact day or week, but knowing the month would be good. And probably cause me way less stress!