Post # 1
Ok this is not wedding related in the slightest… but it would settle an argument between Mrs. Bee and myself.
I contend that most people would rather be blind than deaf. You don’t have to learn Braille, and you could still go out to coffee with your friends and have deep meaningful conversations. Plus you could still listen to music!
Mrs. Bee says she’d rather be deaf than blind. Her reasons are:
- She is already partially deaf, since she has bad hearing (I can vouch for this – when we go to a cocktail party, she can’t really hear anything).
- She’s very visual and can’t imagine not being able to see.
- Ok she didn’t say this reason, but when I talk to Bee… she always likes to sit a few feet away from me and watch my face carefully. I think she really watches faces for visual cues around sincerity and honesty. So if she were blind, I could lie to her all day long and she would have no idea.
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer here – everyone is different. But if you had to choose, would you rather be blind or deaf? What about your SO?
Post # 3
Sorry, I’m kinda with Mrs. Bee on this one. I would rather be deaf. Sure, you might not be able to hear music, but if you ask a deaf person, you can feel it. If I were blind, I think I would just be so bored…TV, internet, it all just wouldn’t be the same. Plus, I would want to see my loved ones and if I have kids it would make me crazy not being able to see their little faces. On top of it all, I’m such a visual person, so I don’t know what I would do without my sight.
Post # 4
I’ve asked myself this question before. That if I had to choose, what would it be? I’d rather be deaf than blind. Deaf…you can learn to read lips and sign language. There are just so many beautiful things in the world. I want to be able to see what I’m wearing. The blue sky, the white clouds…everything. A lot of the things I enjoy doing involve being able to see, not so much for hearing especially since I don’t even listen to music. As for meaningful conversations, I can always type. I type just as fast as I talk anyway.
My SO is the same way.
Post # 5
As sad as it is to think about, I would rather be deaf than blind. You can still communicate by learning to talk, using sign language, reading lips, etc. so you could still have deep meaningful conversations. Plus, a lot of communication is non-verbal. Sometimes I just like to watch my hubby while he’s doing his thing and he’s completely oblivious to it! But just looking at him makes me want to giggle like a giddy little girl with a crush.
On a related note, my eyesight is horrible. Thank goodness for contacts and eyeglasses. Too bad I’m too chicken to go for Lasik.
Post # 6
Good lord! What a tough choice to think about…
I love, love, love music, so it’s nearly impossible to imagine going deaf, but that being said, it is a lot safer for long term survival to be deaf rather than blind. So I would go with survival and go without music 🙁
Post # 7
Guava said the same thing I was thinking, There are so many beautiful things in the world. I would definitely rather be deaf than blind. I’m a totally visual person and get more out of seeing than I do hearing something. I just couldn’t imagine not being able to see my husband’s or my kids faces. I would rather be able to watch them grow up then to miss out on seeing first steps or my daughter’s wedding day.
Post # 8
I would most defnitely want to go blind over going deaf because I could not live in a silent world! Not being able to communicate with family and friends would kill me, at least if I lost my sight I would still be able to talk and communicate with everyone around me, if you lose hearing you have a language that very few people know!
And I think living in darkness over silence would be easier to cope with because I find I often close my eyes to experience things anyways and create pictures in my mind of what I am sensing.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
I certainly hope that neither ever happens to me… but I would rather be deaf than blind. I, too, am very visual and work in a visual field. I can’t imagine life without that visual inspiration. And while I love music and would be really sad without it, I think it would be a lot easier to adapt to any new environment as a deaf person than a blind one. You blend into society a lot more when you’re deaf. If you were blind and walking with a cane, it would be a lot more difficult to blend in.
Post # 10
I would rather be deaf! I can’t imagin’ not seeing the world and life! I would rather see the colors, people’s facial expressions, or my Fiance. If I was deaf I wouldn’t have to listen to my boss or my mother, a perfect world :0)
Post # 11
I would definitely go with the majority on this one and say deaf!
So much of my life, my work, my research, depends on me being able to read. Plus, it’s like my favorite thing in the world, I could live without music but not without books! If I have kids one day I can’t imagine not being able to see what they look like, yikes. But I would miss the voices of my family, the sound of laughter, etc. Tough choice but interesting questions!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
It’s funny you bring this up, since myself & my fiance have talked about this before.
He’s a musician (studying music education) and I’m an artist (studying graphic design) so I’ve always said I’d rather be deaf and he’s always said he’d rather be blind.
The thought of me loosing my sight is the eqivilant to him loosing his hearing.
It’s funny how things work out.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2018 - Dreams Cancun Resort & Spa
I’d rather be deaf than blind too. I’m afraid of the dark…
Post # 14
I think Id rather be blind…
Post # 15
This has always been an easy question for me to answer. I would rather be blind. Music is my heart and soul, and there are several things I really can’t do unless I have music to do them by. If I were blind, I could learn braille so I would still be able to read, but there is no replacement for music for the deaf. I just could not live without music.
Post # 16
I would rather be deaf! At least I could read lips and learn sign language, being blind would be awful, I’m afraid of the dark!