(Closed) Would you rather have a big proposal or a big ring??

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Casa Feliz

…What’s the point of a proposal when you’re planning it with your boyfriend? 

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

NEITHER!!! I’d take my guy over all the over fluff that really isn’t worth anything in the long run anyway. The man and the life you’re going to build together are supposed to be the most important things! aren’t they?

The ring is a symbol, nothing more. And the proposal should be WHAT HE WANTS TO MAKE IT!!! 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee

A ring, even though I could never wear something worth nearly 10k on my hand and not have huge anxiety about losing it.

I’d get the ring I want (which is really inexpensive) and save the remaining 9500 to go to a house..

Spending thousands of dollars on just the proposal seems ridiculous to me.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee

I’d go for the ring. Words from the heart are free, and to me, that’s the most beautiful type of proposal.

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

The proposal package in question doesn’t really appeal to me but if I had the choice between say a $1000 ring and a $9000 holiday to go with or a $9000 ring and a $1000 holiday I would pick the holiday any time regardless of no upgades or whatever. 9K could send me and fiance to Bali  or Thailand or Cambodia for a luxuary holiday for like 3 weeks. I guess I am of the opinion (which doesnt mean anyone else has to share it/should be offended by it) that relationships are built on memories and experiences not on things.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I didn’t get a choice or say but somehow managed to get both! But I would say RING. The memory of our proposal always brings a smile to my face. He proposed on vacation in Italy while on a gondola in Venice being serenaded. I do not know how I didn’t see this coming! It seems so obvious in hindsight that it could not get any more romantic than that! He designed me a classic ring with a brillant cut 1.16ct diamond ring that he chose on his own. I’m a one blessed bee.

Everytime I look down and see my ring (which is often – many times a day) I am reminded of the love we have for each other. Our proposal only comes to mind occasionally.

 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

I’d day ring for sure. Especially now knowing that 10k doesn’t really get you THAT big a diamond anyway. My man proposed on a holiday, up in the wine country. It wasn’t  overly fancy, and very us as it’s one of our fave places to go together. He proposed at dinner. I always joke I wish he hadn’t as I prefer a moment like that in privacy (the idea of a big show really takes the romance away, eg those ones that are filmed? Give me a bucket! In the lounge room like a PP said, or on a picnic, gorgeous!) but he knew I’d get embarassed and he wanted that as he knew I’d be in utter shock and wouldn’t expect it.

the main thing I don’t like about that idea in the original post, is how it’s all organised FOR you. no romance in that. 

Post # 54
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Helper bee

babeba:  To answer you question, I would take the ring in a heartbeat over the big proposal.

But I wanted to add – my wonderful Fiance proposed to me at Fairmont Chateau Lake Louise (very close to Banff) We booked a normal room, and we took a walk to the other side of the lake (in the middle of the freakin winter….) and asked me to be his wife. It was magical.

To give a bit of background – We’re from South Africa. We were working in Edmonton for 6 months, and it was the very first time in my life that I saw snow. 

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The ring!  I know a lot of people comment on how it is ridiculous to pay that much for a ring, but at the same time, it is something that you will wear (hopefully!) for the rest of your life.  When you look at it in that respect, you get to wear an exquisite piece of jewelry for about $200/yr (for a 50 year marriage)!! 🙂

Post # 56
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i had a “big” proposal and it didn’t cost any money, well execpt we went out for an early dinner afterwards.  Darling Husband sent me on a scavenger hunt through our city.  it was amazing.  i had to solve poems to get from place to place.  Darling Husband was waiting in the treehouse in the museum’s sculpture garden where we had our first date. 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

babeba:  I would want him to spend money on the ring. The other option, while absolutely lovely and grand, sounds extremely overpriced. Use that money to go on 2 or 3 weeklong vacations.

Post # 58
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Newbee

disminds are forever 🙂

Post # 59
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Newbee

diamonds are forever! 🙂 & a girls best friend :)))

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I would prefer a $5000 ring and $3000 vacation if there was $8000 to spend on a proposal. That package sounds a little inflated because it’s a “proposal package”. 

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