(Closed) Would you rather have a larger colored stone (non-diamond) or a smaller diamond?

• Ellicott
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: August 2015

It depends on the size of the colored stone, really.  Sometimes large colored stones often look more like cocktail rings than engagement rings. 

All said and done, though, I am a diamond girl and would opt for the diamond. 

• SeaOfLove
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: September 2015

I just don’t want a diamond… or any diamonds.

• becca89
• 3 years ago

I don’t really like diamonds (I’m a sapphire girl, although I probably would have picked an opal if it were a harder wearing stone). But I also don’t like big stones in rings at all. So I vote for small coloured stone 😛

• MissMarple
• 3 years ago

rosecut:  I’m not a diamond girl, so I would pick the gemstone!

Ellicott:  I feel like the only fair way to phrase this in concrete terms is something that doesn’t make the gemstone look cocktail-ish, because most people wouldn’t want a stone of that size anyway. In my mind I pictured ~.33ct – ~.5ct diamond vs ~1ct – ~1.25ct gemstone.

• NovaRising
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: August 2011

Neither.  I’d rather have a large colorless/white non-diamond.  I have a Amora Gem and would not go back.  Although I do on a smaller diamond and plan on buying a man made pad around 2 cts.  I guess I really want it all LOL.  Damn, who knew I would grow up to be Veruca Salts?

• housebee
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: April 2013

I’d rather have any smaller (i.e. 1ct or less) size stone that isn’t a diamond.  I have a 6mm (0.75 ct) moissanite and I love it.

• Robyn0214
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I had a small diamond and traded for a gemstone.

• MissMarple
• 3 years ago

NovaRising:  It’s okay, I feel you, I want gemstones and moissies in larger sizes. My finger size is larger so I have to go larger anyway.

When I first got on the Bee, I saw women whose hands/fingers were shaped very similarly to mine who were like 3 sizes smaller than I was in finger size and I thought that their rings’ stats would look good on me too because of our similarly shaped fingers. I didn’t realize that finger size actually made a difference until I started trying rings on! Now I’m all about the % finger coverage I decide I want for a certain ring. ; )

And okay I’m not gonna lie, I want gemstones in smaller sizes too. I basically want them all. And I’m not even someone who wears jewelry on a regular basis. My SO doesn’t believe that I’ll even wear my rings and still has a hard time believing that I’m so into jewelry and that it actually matters to me. Lol at how wrong he is. *evil laugh*

• Luvdisc
• 3 years ago

A larger, non-diamond colored stone, hands down. I love both styles, but my fingers are slightly above average in size (or large by Bee standards) and I prefer bolder rings anyhow.

• coffeedrinker
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: June 2015

I actually preferred a sapphire over a diamond, and that’s what I got. FI wound up spending more on my ring than what he would have for a diamond of comprable size, because the quality of my stone is impeccable. Also when you compare different stones, you can’t necessarily go by carat weight because sapphires are heavier than diamonds. I have a 2ct natural, unheated sapphire that is the equivelent size of aboout 1.5 ct diamond. 

Also, make sure you do research on sapphires. about 90% are treated in some way, which is a manmade way of hiding or healing any inclusions. Untreated stones are significantly more expensive, a little harder to find (especially under 3 ct), and obviously more valuable. I made it clear that I wanted an untreated sapphire because they are so much prettier, radiating their own natural color versus color enhancement. 

But if you do your homework and don’t let a jeweler push you around, you can wind up with a gorgeous ring. The plus size is that for these stones, you can  get the best bargain in buying them lose and having a jeweler make your ring (that’s what FI did. He paid about 6K and it was appraised at almost 10K).

My ring on a size 6 (it’s filthy in this pic)….

• This reply was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by  coffeedrinker.

• zamorski
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

I will have lots of different rings and gems during my life, but.. an e-ring (my e-ring) must be only with a diamond 😉

• MrsBuesleBee
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: September 2015

For me it depends on the budget- 5k id take the smaller diamond, 1k and below the gemstone. Though I would want to upgrade later to a diamond.