(Closed) Would you rather have had your dream wedding or your dream honeymoon?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

NZ is amazing and I can say with full certainty that it is far and away the most beautiful country I have ever been to (and that’s saying A LOT)!   However, with that being said, there’s really no point to going to NZ for only 4 days.  It’s a very long journey and it is an unbelievable country – I think you will seriously regret not having more time there and it may taint your whole wedding experience.   If you can’t afford to go for a longer time now, I would shelve New Zealand and save up for a time when you can do it properly.

A week in Europe would probably be a better option – you get to spend more time together and will actually have a bit of time to appreciate your time together.   

For me personally, before I’d even read your post, my initial reaction was HONEYMOON!  The wedding day goes by so quickly but to spend some quality time with your new husband, soaking in everything that’s just happened is such a worthwhile endeavour.

Like I said, New Zealand is amazing but to do that long of a trip for such a short time would be incredibly draining and I really think you would be quite sad about having to leave so soon and not being able to explore more of the country.  It’s just not practical for a long weekend IMO.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I agree with Ree723.  New Zealand for four days will leave you disappointed.  You’ll spend too much of the time exhausted from travel and have too little time to really feel like you are there and experiencing how beautiful it is.  Pick one or two places in Europe if you are going for a week and you’ll get a much better feeling of having “been there” and made memories.

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would do Europe! 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If I’m just answering the basic question: I’d rather have the honeymoon!

Also, I agree with PPs about NZ. That’s more than a 4-day trip, IMO. I’d rather do Europe and get to see more.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Basing this only on how you responded to other people’s opinions, i think you’ve already made your decision on what you think will have the most meaning. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Honeymoon!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@FutureMrsHoneybee:    I only meant that you lose two days getting there (you leave on a Wednesday, arrive on Friday etc).  Then you’re jet lagged.  You run off and get married, spend a day or two relaxing and then jump back on a plane for 14 hours and have massive jet lag to overcome.  It would be completely and utterly exhausting.  It sounds like you have a romanticized notion of a NZ wedding right now and I would hate for your dreams to be dashed because you didn’t have a realistic expectation of what it was like.  

If you just want to go for the wedding and to relax at a spa for a couple of nights, there are a LOT of other places where you could do that much easier and for a cheaper price…. especially as you said you’re considering going back to NZ for your anniversary.

I’ve been to Mt Cook where you want to get married and it is truly gorgeous, but it’s not easy to get to from Christchurch (assuming that’s where you’d fly in as that’s the nearest international airport), so factor in additional travel times and costs to get to Mt Cook.  It is a beautiful mountain village – but you could get a very similar experience in the Rockies, or British Columbia, Canada.  You don’t need to fly halfway across the world for a couple of days to get married on a mountain that looks very similar to lots of other beautiful mountain towns (no offense to the Kiwis out there!), especially as you only want to spend a couple of nights in a spa and going on some horseback rides whilst there.  You could have that experience anywhere…. it just doesn’t make sense to me to fly all that way and not take the time to see the country, especially when it’s a country with as many amazing sites as NZ.  

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ETA: I deleted the last part of my post as I don’t want to put a negative spin on whatever you decide to do.   Good luck whichever you decide!

Post # 12
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Wannabee

Honeymoon! Both for my own personal answer and as an answer to your question. If you’re from the States, you are going to be so so jet-lagged and exhausted to fully experience your wedding day. It does look beautiful though…maybe a 5 or 10 year renewal ceremony? 🙂 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m surprised so many people said your honeymoon…I’m the completely opposite! You will have other vacations, but this is your one and only wedding! I’d rather put the money into that and make your next vacation a super nice one =)

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FutureMrsHoneybee:   What about having a mountaintop wedding in Erupe followed by your honeymoon, since you’d already be there? Is that an option?

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