(Closed) Would you rather one plated choice or a buffet?

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 2
421 posts
Helper bee

 I’m sure your guests will be getting a delicious meal, so only having one option should be fine unless you need to make accomodations for vegetarians/people with allergies.

Post # 3
2443 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

As a vegetarian, I would prefer a buffet but as long as you could do a plated vegetarian meal I would be totally happy with that too!

Post # 4
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Typically I dont like buffet style weddings but I think not giving people an option of what type of plated dinner they get is even worse.  If youre going to do only 1 option I would choose a chicken dish over beef.  

Post # 5
1104 posts
Bumble bee

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NBee: i think only offering one plated option is unadvisable. while your fi might like the idea of a plated dinner because he thinks it’s more formal no one will think it’s formal if there aren’t any choices. people who don’t like the entree will be really out of luck. i’d go buffet, also remind your fi that buffet doesn’t necessarily mean not formal. formal buffets are becoming more and more common and the quality of the food and your guest’s comfort matters way more than plated versus not plated! 

Post # 6
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’d rather have a buffet than not have a choice, but I’ve been to a wedding where everyone was served the same thing and it was awesome. They had a meat course AND a fish course, though.

I have weird things I turn my nose up at despite being a not especially picky eater so if the meal featured one of those things I would either have to suck it up and eat something I don’t enjoy or go hungry.

Post # 7
1350 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m confused. Why does not doing the tasting mean you only offer one option? 

Is it because you are worried you wont like both options? Isn’t the risk the same with just 1? 

Post # 8
1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Could you just offer chicken or beef on the invitations even if you haven’t had a chance to taste them first? I mean, you’re set on the venue so you have to eat something they prepare. Odds are if they can cook beef, they can also cook chicken so it’s not like one of those choices is likely to be awful. I know it’s common to describe the chicken or beef dish so guests have a little more information to go on, but in your case I think it would be fine just to offer them chicken or beef on the response card.

Personally I wouldn’t care if there was only one option but I can imagine that some folks would mind. Plus I’ve never been to a wedding with no entree choices, so it might seem strange to your guests. I also don’t mind a buffet (would prefer that to only having one option) but your Fiance seems to have a strong opinion on that.

Post # 9
1320 posts
Bumble bee

I would much rather have the plated meal, as long as there is a silent veggie option. 

Just a quick question, do they take orders at the table at the wedding, or do they want meal choices in advance? I would find it odd that they only do the tasting so late (unless you are sending invites out too early or something), if they wanted meal choices in advance. If guests can order at the table, why not still choose a beef/fish or beef/chicken at the tasting?

Post # 11
9260 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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NBee:  I’m with
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asobos:  I don’t understand how having a single untasted option is better than having two untasted options, or why an untasted buffet would be any more acceptable. To answer the question, I’d prefer a buffet. But can you help us understand why you feel bufet vs single-option-plated are your only choices?

Post # 12
4035 posts
Honey bee

Back when I was married (late 1970s) it was the usual thing to just have one, plated choice. Ours was a chicken dish. Almost everyone offered a chicken dish. No one complained. I’ve gone to two weddings, in the last 1.5 years, where guests were given a beef and chicken duet entree, plus a vegetarian option was available.

If you had a poll, I’d vote against a buffet.

Post # 13
2065 posts
Buzzing bee

I prefer buffets.  That way I can pick and choose what I want and how much of each item I want.  There is nothing worse then being given a plated option only to find that you like the tiny portion of potatoes and nothing else.

Post # 14
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We had a “Breakfast for Dinner” theme for our reception and it was buffet style. Our guests LOVED it!!! We wanted the wedding ceremony to be formal, but we wanted our reception to be fun & laid back for our guests. With the different options of foods in a buffet style dinner, there was surely something that everyone/anyone would eat on the menu. It was definitely a HIT!

Post # 15
7601 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would prefer a buffet over a single “choice” (using the term loosely because if it is all that is offered, it’s not really a choice, now, is it?).  It is very easy to put a little sticker on the back of the place card to let the serving staff know who is getting what. If you cannot work out the logistics to offer two items from which the guest can choose, then do a buffet.  There is no way you can pick one menu item that every single guest will actually enjoy.

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