(Closed) Would you REALLY be okay with a ringless proposal?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be okay with a ringless proposal?

    Yes! Absolutely, it's just jewelery.

    I would say yes, but still want a ring.

    I mean, my SO should at least bring a ring pop to the table...

    No, I want a ring for my proposal, it makes as me happy/means a lot to me!

    No, but I'd want some sort of stone/necklace/jewelry.

    Other, explain.

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @southsun:  I accepted a ring-less proposal and it wouldn’t have occurred to me to do otherwise. It was the best moment of my life. Honestly, everything faded away but me and him, so I didnt even notice there was no ring at the time.

    But I won’t lie, I would have been disappointed if he hadn’t wanted to buy me a ring at all.  He didn’t buy one before because he wanted to let me choose it with him. He bought me a stand-in ring 2 days after the proposal and my “real” ring 3 months later once we’d picked it. 

    Post # 18
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I got a ringless proposal and was glad because my man has ZERO taste in buying me or anyone anything.  Ha!  I would have gotten the first thing he saw at the store.  So being able to pick out my ring was great by me.  When my ring came in he did repropose with the ring. 

    As long as it ended with something sparkly on my finger I didn’t care how it happened. 

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @southsun:  I said I’d be OK with it and I was. DH and I had been together for 11 years when he proposed. I knew our financial situation and if he would have gone out and bought me the ring of my dreams I’d be stuck paying the rent by myself. Would I have liked a ring? Sure, every girl would like a ring, but unfortunately some (many in fact) women would consider it a fake proposal without the ring. 

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My ring less proposal was great!! He surprised me and then we got to ring shop together, best of both worlds. 

    The proposal was the best day of my life do far, and he made it really special. Then I got to pick out my perfect ring. 

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would say yes without a ring, but I wouldn’t consider it to be official and I wouldn’t tell anyone until I had a ring (forever or stand in).

     

    Post # 23
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I like having a ring because it’s an easy way to tell people I’m taken. So I like the idea of an e-ring. So I guess it would depend on why my husband didn’t want me to have an e-ring. Money wouldn’t have been an issue, because we had an heirloom to use. But if he had a good reason, I’d consider it. I prefered having the ring at the proposal, but I would have been fine with getting it later.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Absolutely OK! I didn’t want an engagement ring – they don’t suit me or my lifestyle – and DH knew that. What we wanted to do was get married so we did. 4 weeks after the proposal. However, we are older and had been together a very long time. Engagement, as a status, was fairly meaningless in our case!

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My Fiance asked me to marry him before we had a ring, and of course I said yes I will marry you, but I didn’t consider it a proposal, just talking about the future that someday we will get married. I didn’t consider us to be engaged until he asked me to marry him with a ring.

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @southsun:   Yes, and my proposal was ringless.  But he had mentioned he had his grandmother’s stone and would be happy to have it re-set for me if I liked it.  

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @southsun:  I did say yes to a ringless proposal, but several months later when we actually set a wedding date, my DH insisted I get a ring, so we picked one out together, at the same time we picked out our wedding bands. 

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I got a ringless proposal, the fact that he was going to go along with getting an e-ring after was a surprise! I haven’t gotten my ring yet, but I was fine with my ringless proposal. I would have been disappointed if I never were to get a ring though, and the fact that he doesn’t really care about e-rings or wedding ceremonies makes that fact that he’s willing to do those things for me because I want them, all the more special! Heck he didn’t even want to get married again, but he asked me and we got married all the same, I think that proves a lot.

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I would say yes, but I still want a ring. That said, it could be a cheap ring and I would be happy. I don’t care if it’s diamond, moissanite, sapphire, ruby, etc. I just want something symbolic of our love and commitment.

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I had a ringless proposal. We got a ring later. 

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Honestly, we were committed already (living together, dating for almost 5 years, plans to get married) so the proposal was just the formality. Without a ring, I’d say – why bother. I’ll tell the truth – the proposal for us was MOSTLY about the ring because we had already decided to be together.

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