(Closed) Would you REALLY be okay with a ringless proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be okay with a ringless proposal?

    Yes! Absolutely, it's just jewelery.

    I would say yes, but still want a ring.

    I mean, my SO should at least bring a ring pop to the table...

    No, I want a ring for my proposal, it makes as me happy/means a lot to me!

    No, but I'd want some sort of stone/necklace/jewelry.

    Other, explain.

  • Post # 61
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I didn’t need a ring but my very traditional family did. Since we had been living together for so long, a proposal without a rigng wouldn’t have signified much to them, unfortunately.

    Post # 62
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My (now) husband proposed with a stand-in ring.  It was a huge surprise and a touching proposal and perfect for me.  I have very specific taste in jewelry and love to design it myself so I would have felt robbed if he bought a ring without my input.  I wear the ring I chose during the day and wear the one he proposed with at night when we are together. 

    If he had proposed without a ring, I still would have accepted. 

    Post # 63
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I didn’t have a ring. Instead I was proposed to with an engagement necklace. It’s a simple “love knot” pendant on a simple silver chain. I wear it all the time. After the engagement happened, I began ordering the ring (I wanted a moissy and wanted to order it online.) 

    After I got the necklace, I didn’t think I even wanted a ring. But each day, people asked to see it, wanted to see it, wanted to know where it was. It did become tiring. And then when the ring arrived, and I started wearing it, I realized that it was something special. So, yes, having a ring has been nice and I’m glad I have it. But the necklace still means so much.

    Post # 64
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    southsun:  proposals sans ring are fine… So long as one follows! A girl likes to show off she’s practically off the market and in love with her man. At least I do! My Fiance proposed without a ring as he knew I wanted to choose my own. He proposed in January and I didn’t wear a ring till March I think it was

    Post # 65
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    41 posts
    Newbee

    I had a ringless proposal.

     

    I still said yes, but I wont lie and say I wasn’t disappointed. 

     

    However, once it was explained why he wanted to wait (he wanted to get me a gorgeous ring, and didn’t have the funds at the time, but didn’t want to not be engaged to me) I felt a little bit better.

     

    Fast forward to now – April 14th will be our 2 year wedding anniversary, and as of last week, we ordered my engagement ring! 🙂 It should be here within a month. So excited! I got to pick it out and everything. It’s amazing, and he’s amazing!

    Post # 66
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I wouldn’t be okay with it, but I wouldn’t care about the monetary value of the ring.  If he gave me a sterling silver plain band because we were struggling and it was all he could afford I would go with it.  I’d exepect an upgrade down the track though!

    Post # 67
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    1001 posts
    Bumble bee

    We got engaged, and I didn’t have a ring.  I was totally okay with it.  I ended up wearing a ring I already owned (a RHR) and treating it like an engagement ring until we could get an engagement ring for me.  I still don’t have an engagement ring (it’s been 4 months), and I’m still okay with it.  It’ll be about 7-8 months after the engagement when I get my ring, because it’s now on layaway.  I’m also totally okay with the fact that I’m helping pay for my engagement ring, he’s not buying it for me.  Because it’s not a present, it’s a symbol of our commitment to each other.

    Post # 68
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Personally, I would not have cared one bit if he had proposed without a ring. To me a ring is just a piece of metal and a rock. What matters is US not the object that others have deemed as an appropriate symbol.

     

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I had a ringless proposal, and I couldn’t have been happier!!! Lol  This gave me the chance to truly get EXACTLY what I wanted! 

    My Fiance told me when we first started dating that he didn’t want to get married again. I was good with that and never pushed it. We have a great relationship and why try to “fix” something that isn’t broke. We were sitting on the couch and asked me if I ever considered us getting married… So we had a big conversation about what we wanted. Then he asked. No ring. 

    I started shopping and got free reign to pick what I wanted. When my dream ring came in, he dropped to one knee…..

    PERFECT!!! (For me)

    Post # 70
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I really did not want an engagement ring!  I had one with my first marriage, only because I had inherited a diamond ring from my grandmother, so we had the diamond reset.  But I always hated wearing it.  It was one more thing to think about if I was out after dark, traveling, in a high crime area, etc.  Even though the ring was insured, I didn’t want anyone tempted to attack me to get it.  For my second marriage, I wanted no engagement ring, and a plain gold band for my wedding ring, and that’s what I got.

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