- 9 years ago
I feel sorry for Ignacio! LOL
I feel sorry for Ignacio! LOL
@CestTresJolie14: “and they know I’m a victim. I feel so violated.”
Are you serious? Someone called and was mean to you. I’m sure if no one has ever been mean to you before that it came as a shock but it doesn’t equate to you being a victim. People who are beaten or raped are victims. A woman you don’t know was mean to you on the phone. There’s a difference.
The cops are not going to take one mistaken phone call seriously. They are not going to track her down, find out her name and address, and send someone to speak to her. If it was a pattern, then yes. But one call is not harrassment. It’s a mistake. They are going to think you’re unstable and go about they’re business.
If anything I would be concerned on why you’re taking this call to the point of paranoia.
@cerenatee: I meant that they know I am not having an affair and have fallen victim of some crazy mix up, but thank you for your concern. And I’ve certainly had others be mean. I’ve just never been accused of having an affair with someone before. I’m an overly paranoid person and have not had the easiest life and do come from a family where paranoia and depression exists within the majority of the women.
Sounds like a wrong number to me.
If she called again I would tell her Ignacio was the best I’ve ever had.
I’ve had a couple of people I’ve never met break up with my voicemail before…which makes me feel kind of like a human shield for whoever they were trying to call…after all, who dates a jerk that will dump you via voicemail anyway?
I would certainly stop interacting with this woman in any way and see if there was a way for my phone provider to block all calls from her for me…since legally it would be pretty difficult to prove what was happening without putting more energy into recording, verifying phone records and all that…..and as a rule, I don’t answer calls on my phone that don’t show up on the ID, if you ignore her she’s likely to take her “investigation” if we can call it that, up a notch and actually follow Ignacio to wherever and whomever he’s actually schtooping.
I would just ignore it and find it funny actually. But even if you don’t find it funny I don’t see any reason to be scared or upset. She dialed the wrong number! And it sounds like it was only once.
@PinkMermaid: There are. lol but after reading other peoples responses, I have started to see the comedy behind what’s happened and I’m feeling a lot less sketched out. She really can’t find me and she has no idea that I don’t live in the same county anymore so she’s probably looking in the wrong cities, anyway.
Thank you to everyone for all of your input! I’m seeing how this is all pretty hilarious now. I have been under more stress than I know how to handle and this just was like the cherry on top and I overreacted and my mind went way ahead of the situation. After telling the teacher whom I am student teaching for what happened and seeing her cracking up, I realized this is really too silly. A poor wife is being cheated on and she’s just trying to stop the hurt. She just happened to call the wrong person so I should be above this and move on which is what I am going to do. Thank you all!
I’d say go to the cops if she keeps harrassing you. Like you mentioned before, she probably feels stupid, but she likely realizes her error now. She was in a blind rage because her husband is probably cheating on her – so I’d say give her a pass unless she really does think its you and calls again.
First I do completely believe that you are telling the truth when you say that you have not slept with this person. If you did then you would not be so upset about the phone call.
And unfortunately you are going to have to let it go. Because even if you did go to the police there is nothing that they would do about it.
Try to see it from her perspective. She fully believes that her husband is cheating on her. And she believes that he is cheating on her with whoever the number was that she dialed on the napkin. Not only could she have dialed the number wrong but there is a possibilty that the number could of been written down wrong. And unfortunately you were the women on the other end of the phone.
Now if she is continuing to call you and starts making threats. That is when you should go to the police. But for now, unfortunately, it is best to just let this one go.
I am sorry that this happened to you.
No, I would not report it. It’s annoying for you, but she didn’t threaten to come find you and she hasn’t called again. If she becomes obsessive or mentions finding out where you live, then I most certainly would call the police.
She probably realizes her mistake. Hopefully she leaves you alone- that’s gotta be an unsettling phone call to take!
@lilone4403: Thank you for your support. I’m feeling better now so I can see things from her perspective. I feel very badly for her and I wish it didn’t happen to her. Personally if I was cheated on, I wouldn’t care to speak to the third party. My anger and resentment would be toward the person who cheated on me. But some women don’t quite feel the same way, so I can’t be too mad. I am sorry I even picked up the phone at all. I see why she was upset when she heard my voice, which was why I thought if my a brother, a male, could talk to her that maybe she would calm down and make sense of the situation, but it didn’t work. I’ve let it go so now I can focus on school again and make the best of the rest of this semester and finally start planning the wedding to the man of my dreams. 🙂
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