(Closed) Would you return an expensive gift from your father?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Would you keep a gift with sentimental value if you don't like it?
    Yes - keep it : (109 votes)
    89 %
    No - return it and use the money towards the house savings fund : (14 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would never be able to return something like that. Your dad probably spent the time to pick out a piece that he thought you would like. If it were me, I’d just tuck it away. Who knows, maybe you’ll have a daughter who will want to wear it someday.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    That is all well and good, until your dad asks you about it. I think you should just accept that it was a gift and maybe someday you will have occation to wear it, or have a daughter or DIL who want it. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, I think you should not only keep it but wear it.  It’ll likely grow on you and clearly it’s important to your dad.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think if you did get rid of it you would regret it. I would just keep it. One day you will want to run back to that bracelet to remember him.

    Post # 7
    Member
    233 posts
    Helper bee

    $500 is not that much money.  It isn’t going to make or break your house fund.  It’s not going to enable you to buy your house this very moment if you return it.  With that being said, the moment that you shared with your dad is something you will see every time you look at the bracelet – even if you don’t wear it very often.  It’s something special that he went and picked out because he loves you.  Keep it.  Cherish it.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It would take a lot more than $500 to get me to return something so sentimental. I vote to keep it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope, I could not. Even if it was not my style, I would wear that baby for the simple fact that my dad took the time to buy it, pick it out, and it’s obviously an important gift to him. Make it a point to wear it when you go to dinner or to your dads. I think seeing his face light up when he sees you wearing it after the wedding, you will be happy you kept it. If you do decide to keep it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’ve kept every piece of jewelry ever given to me, whether I liked it or not. Returning something my father spent so much on, regardless of me not liking it, would kill me. I’d never. I’d feel awful. I’d store it away and bestow it upon a younger family member in the future.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I could never think about returning it, and I do think you should wear it, its speacial is $500 realy worth giving up something so special that your father picked out?

    Post # 12
    Member
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I understand receiving jewelry that is totally not in line with your style. FI’s family has given me a number of items that totally are not me. I would keep it and wear it around your father. He obviously was so excited about it that he wanted to pick a special time and place to give it to you; rather than a “Oh, I just saw this and thought you would like it” type of gift.

    Post # 14
    Member
    9550 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I say keep it. Maybe it could be altered to be a bit more your style?

    Post # 15
    Member
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    As a sort of devil’s advocate…if he gave you a return receipt, then he might have already understood that it might not be your style. Why else would he have given you the receipt?

    However, if I were in your shoes, I’d exchange it for something more my taste rather than get the money for it. Like someone else said above, $500 isn’t going to make or break your house fund, and speaking from experience, letting something go entirely that was from a parent, especially in a sweet moment like you had with your dad, really might come to be regretted later.

    Post # 16
    Member
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    But it isn’t like stuff from an ex boyfriend, where they are no longer in your life, or a wedding dress that takes up a huge amount of space and you will never have need of again. It’s a bracelet that takes up almost no room and can be worn again. I think your dad would be really hurt to discover you returned his gift. It also just wasn’t some Christmas or birthday present, it was for your wedding, something hopefully you won’t ever repeat.

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