(Closed) Would you return your diamond for a moissy?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you return your diamond and get a moissy instead???
    Yes : (60 votes)
    14 %
    No Way : (337 votes)
    78 %
    Maybe : (33 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 122
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @bunnyharriet:  EDITED….decided it wasn’t worth it.

    If you want to be insulted or bothered by how other people respond when asked how they personally feel for their own lives then be my guest. I would find that exhausting.

     

    Post # 123
    Member
    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @EffieTrinket:  Agreed!

    I have a moissy BUT if I had a diamond of the same size (1 ct)), I wouldn’t trade it for a moissy. Of course, I wouldn’t trade my moissy for a diamond either, I’ve grown sentimentally attached to it, something I never thought would happen with a ring! I have to say, I love all ring bling equally!

    Post # 124
    Member
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m considering it, myself, although I think I’ll end up just getting a second ring and keeping my current ring for sentimental purposes.  My mom did something like that.  She kept her original set and bought a thick band and that’s what she always wears.

    Post # 125
    Member
    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    This topic never goes well. LOL

    Post # 126
    Member
    4640 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    to save money, yes I would.  although nothing could take away the sentimental value of my original diamond.

    Post # 127
    Member
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @futuremrskgt:  +1. I actually read a lot of rude comments about diamonds on this forum, such as ‘I would never want a diamond, for ethical reasons’ (implying diamond wearers are somehow unethical), or ‘I would never feel comfortable wearing something that expensive on my finger! Don’t lose it!’ (the condescension was dripping from that particular comment, which is why I remember it so well). But I suppose that for some reason we are just supposed to take it.

    Meanwhile answering the question the thread posed with ‘Uhhh no’ is just incredibly catty?

    On fashion forums, people who wear knockoffs or ‘inspired’ items that very closely resemble brand name goods to the point of confusion don’t get the same velvet glove treatment that seems to be the standard on this forum, for people with diamond lookalikes. I think the fashion forums’ take on lookalikes is a little closer to the real world’s.

    Post # 128
    Member
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @bunnyharriet:  Hopefully you also notice the rude comments from moissy owners about those of us who own diamonds.  Regardless of the stone or cost, we are all so lucky to have a ring that represents the great amount of love between us and our SOs.

    Post # 129
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @joya_aspera:  I have to agree with you completely. Furthermore I think to comment and criticize how people responded was taking this thread to a whole different level. And yes there is a wicked double standard that I have mentioned for well over a year…I’m not holding my breath that anything changes any time soon.

    To be honest the OP allowed for a response of “No Way” in the poll itself. I would see that on the same potential level of rudeness to moissy lovers as my “Um, no” so why are we not berating all those(299 and counting) that voted with such enthusiasm as no way projects?

    Post # 130
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 1999
    Post # 131
    Member
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @joya_aspera:  Essentially, there’s a bias going on from both sides…I don’t see how interpreting “I don’t want a diamond for ethical reasons” is more easily interpreted as being judgemental than anything people were offended by here. Both could easily be benign comments not made to offend anyone, both could easily be misconstrued when people are discussing an emotionally charged topic.

    PPs easily could have said “I didn’t mean it in an offensive way, I was just saying how I personally feel, I don’t judge anyone else”…instead this has turned into “You’re wrong for misinterpreting me” and “Other people say things that are offensive to me, too”, neither of which are really neccessary and/or relevant. 

    Post # 132
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @les105:  I wish she hadn’t edited her post that was going to be a good one. 😉

    Post # 133
    Member
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @MissWaltz:  Yes, it implies that wanting a diamond is obviously unethical (so obvious that it requires no justification or clarification), and further, that wearing something that was developed to look as close to one as possible, and continuing to promote that industry and standard, is somehow the ethical choice.

    Compare and contrast with the following, more neutral statement. ‘I don’t want to risk the chance that my diamond might be a conflict diamond, and I can’t afford the premium for a Canadian diamond, so I’m going with X lookalike instead. It may look the same, but at least it seems a bit more removed, to me.’

    or ‘I know not all diamonds are conflict diamonds, but i’m really upset that that’s going on in the industry. I don’t want to help promote it at all, even indirectly, so I’m choosing a colored gemstone ring.’

    Post # 134
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I’d like to suggest that we get back to the question at hand and ignore the comment that called out those that felt safe to give their opinions.

    Back to the topic at hand….”Would you (the poster, regardless of anyone else’s answer or decision because that is irrelevant) return your diamond for a moissy?”

    Post # 135
    Member
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Never! Only because this is the ring my Fiance proposed with and to quote nona someone can take it off my rotting corpse!! LOL

    Post # 136
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Nope. Never. For one, I have an emerald cut which isn’t available as a moissy. Two, I don’t want to feel like I am “faking” anything or anyone directly or indirectly. And three, I wanted something that was not cookie cutter like a moissy — my emerald cut was sought out for its specific length proportions that are not that standard you’d find for lab created stones.

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