(Closed) Would you say something?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It sounds to me like she’s kidding. Only you know your history with her, and if she’s really being hateful and snarky — but it seems like her “Aw, Wiggy, I love you” was an acceptance of your apology for overreacting, and now she’s teasing you both about the four measly days comment she had previously made. She’s making fun of herself, essentially. 

Post # 4
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4689 posts
Honey bee

I would try and let it go for now. If her behavior is strange when she gets here, then have a coffee date and a heart-to-heart conversation with her. Sometimes things just don’t translate well over the internet. 

Post # 5
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14066 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dunno, if this were me, I’d probably just let it slide.  4 “measly” days could possibly refer to short trip only being 4 days as “measly” like, ugh, the trip is so damn short… not, the activities during the 4 days are measly and not worth the trip.  She said they know she cant go to the event, but maybe it is nice to be invited so I dont think that’s a big deal, its not like she would consider blowing off the wedding for pumpkin carving.  Maybe her choice of words is not ideal, but it is a short trip from another country.  I mean, if I were flying to say Germany for 4 days, I could see my self saying ugh, only 4 stupid days.  But that is in referece to the short trip, of course I’m still going to love being there for that time.

Post # 6
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166 posts
Blushing bee

She’s coming back to her hometown for your wedding right? I wouldn’t take any of what she is saying as a dig at your wedding. I live overseas and don’t get home often, 4 days isn’t long to spend with the people you care about back home and it just seems like she is venting that she doesn’t get to spend longer there with you and the people she cares about.

Post # 7
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like she is making light of your earlier conversation in a good way.

Post # 8
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3887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you’re reading way too much into things. Of course she is going to want to see other friends while she’s home, and she’s got every right to be a little disappointed at how short her trip is. She’s not blaming you for the short trip, just complaining about it being short. And while your wedding is the main reason for her trip, she’s left a lot more friends than just you behind; it’s only natural that she wants to see them and plan something with all of them while she’s in town anyway.  Especially considering your wedding on a Saturday— only natural she wants to plan something to do with those other friends after your wedding. She knows you’re probably not going to want to hang out wiht her the day after your wedding— you’ll be busy being exhausted and feeling married to want another person around.

Yet another reason why facebook basically sucks.

Post # 9
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would chalk it up to hypersensitivity due to wedding stress and let it go. Good luck this weekend!!!

Post # 10
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you’re being way over sensitive…

Post # 12
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you’re stressed and overly sensitive.  I see nothing wrong with what she’s posted on FB so there is nothing to address with her.  You’re reading way too much into her status updates so just avoid FB and have a great wedding.  🙂

Post # 13
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228 posts
Helper bee

She’s coming home for a short time and most of it she will be doing wedding stuff with you. I mm sure there is a lot of stuff andpeephole she missesbut won’t be able to do/see bc of the wedding. That’s the context I read her posts in and I really don’t see any reason to be offended. 

Post # 14
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My husband and I just traveled to another continent for a wedding.  We were in transit for a total of about 36 hours and spent about 3 days at the actual wedding.  I’m glad we went because it was for a really really good friend of mine.  But wow was it ever an exhausting trip!  And it was even more stressful for the MOH.  She was venting to me on the flight home.

I don’t regret going to the wedding, but that didn’t make it an easy trip.  She’s probably just anticipating how overwhelmed it will feel.  It’s her weekend too.

Post # 15
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7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ex 1: She wishes she could be invited just so she knew her friends still thought of her. Where’s the problem in that?

Ex 2: She’s only coming home for 4 days and wishes it was for longer.

Ex 3: So she’s not ready for the trip yet, i.e. she hasn’t packed. She’s just busy with her own life. Why is that a problem?

Do NOT address these things with her. There is no problem. I think you are just stressing and overthinking it. She will be there, that is what matters. Have a wonderful wedding!

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