(Closed) Would you say something?

posted 5 years ago in Food
  • poll: Would you say something to the wedding cordinator?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    You should mention it. If he wont budge I would still bring 6 people and pay $40. It’s not worth kicking out 2 people out of a promissed tasting fo $40. Just my 0.02 🙂

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee

    I voted no, because I think 6 people is kind of unnecessary so not something I would want to make a fuss over. I’d save my fuss making just in case something else comes up and you might need the coordinator to be partial to you. 

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee

    I would mention it (not demand it). Worst case they say no, but they might say “oh, that’s not our policy now but if that’s what you were told we will honour it”. If you’re spending thousands at this venue, they will quite possibly just let this little bit slide. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee

    Yes, I would mention it.  A previous person told you X, while this person told you Y.  Why would you not speak up and say “Oh, we can only bring 2 for no additional charge?  We were told by Z that we could bring 6” and then see what their response is.  I mean it is kind of the logical next step just to get some clarification.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    I would also like to add, that asking just for clarification is NOT making a fuss over it.  Making a fuss would be throwing a fit when told no.  Just asking for clarification because you were told one thing and are now being told another is certainly not making a fuss.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I wouldn’t, but I don’t think 6 people need to be there.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Was this mentioned in an email or only verbal? Email whould be helpful, I would forward the email and ask for clarifiaction. If only verbal, then as

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    freckles071611:  suggested – mention it and see if they state that policy has changed.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I had six people, plus us at our testing and I really enjoyed it. It was nice to have opinions. Definitely mention it and see what they say, you never know.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wouldn’t mention it because the limitation of 4 people total (the couple and two guests) is a fairly standard limitation. Very few caterers or venues will let you bring the whole family to a tasting without an extra charge.  Not everything needs to be specifically spelled out in a contract and the boundaries that are being put forth are not unreasonable. It’s just like when they say catering will be $50/person or whatever, that implies that everyone gets one plate, not two people sharing one plate or one person who gets three plates.

    Also from a practical standpoint, 6 people at a tasting is too many. You will have too many opinions and too many distractions. You’re not there to have dinner.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I think having six people isn’t a good idea in any case – that’s 6 people trying to make one decision.  Do you really want to be second guessing your choices for food all day long because there’s that one or two people in your group who thinks something else is better?  Feeling bad when you decide on the spinach rissoto because one person doesn’t like spinach, but you can’t pick the pasta salad because another hates mayo?  It’ll be a pain in the neck.  and I can tell you as a person who was asked to taste cake – having my opinion ignored entirely in the end was disappointing – I think I’d rather have not been asked at all.

    Also I’m way too cheap a person to pay 40 bucks per person to TASTE food.  That’s not even a full meal but the cost is double a basic restaurant meal.  No thanks.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    There is absolutely no harm in asking. If the former coordintor told you this, it is likely that they also told other couples, so this may be a question the venue is prepared for. If they say no, I would not pay the $40/pp like a PP suggested. That’s an extra $160… no way is that worth it to taste food. 

    Post # 13
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The point now isnt if it’s a good idea to have 6 people are not.  OP was told 6 people were allowed and invited 6.  Yes I would absolutely mention it.  I don’t understand why there would be any hestitation to do so.  Just call them up and schedule/rsvp to the tasting (I’m assuming the invite requires an rsvp?) and mention it to them.  If they say no, sorry things change or the old coordinator was mistaken, then ok, suck it up and pay or uninvite the two extras.  There is zero harm in asking about it if that’s what you were told before.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I would mention it, since I think 6 is relatively common (the couple, brides mother, brides father, grooms mother, grooms father) and it’s what they had said. Worse case scenario they say that they can’t change it, but there’s nothing to lose with asking about it.

    I think tone matters a lot here. I would say something like: “When we started planning this,  [old coordinator] said that we would be able to have up to six people free of charge. Based on this we already invited [family/friends/whoever]. Is there a possibility that the RSVP was mistaken or that this is a new policy?” and have my tone express concern as opposed to be accusatory.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    Yes I would mention it, if they can’t accommodate you I wouldn’t make a big deal of it, but they made this change and so I would certainly get clarification at the very least. 

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