Would you say that size is the main thing that matters?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

For most people who haven’t done their research but crave that diamond for one reason or another, “the bigger – the better” is probably the attitude since this is what’s often pushed the most by jewelry stores. 

In general, I think it’s wise to go with what truly makes you happy. I’m not a fan of diamonds in general, hence got a different center stone. Many people I know prefer smaller rings in general with no giant rocks sticking out. It all depends. smile

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I personally don’t like big stones but I do like a sparkly diamond for me the sparkle was the most important thing

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

A woman I worked with years ago told me “People want the best of what they know.” That’s always struck me as such a wise point.

Marketing is a whole industry based on making people think this or that thing is “the best” and that different luxury items are just what they need to appear to be a person of taste and elegance and status. Keeping that in mind helps me not play myself, so I spend my money on what I want, not what someone else has told me I want or need. Self possession and contentment are a lot more elegant than anything we can buy in a store, anyway.

But I do understand feeling the need to keep reminders about specs or something to maintain perspective, though the best thing is to be happy with what you have while also being able to appreciate the beauty of what someone else has as well.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think it is different depending on your personal friend group and local culture. I have a 0.6 carat solitaire. I am in the field of medicine. Lots of physicians and fellow medical students have smaller diamonds because you cant have a giant rock on your hands when you’re working. But if I’m downtown, I notice a lot of women have larger gems. Remember: you don’t know if someone has a diamond, moissanite, CZ, or white sapphire. You could see someone’s ring on the street and assume its really pricy, but you don’t know based off a glance. 

Even more important: the size of the diamond has nothing to do with the strength of the relationship. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

Totally felt like you! My Fiance went for perfect quality, and as diamonds are $$$ he chose a much smaller diamond to keep the colour and clarity immaculate. I have always liked my ring, but I have often seen people flashing bigger rings around and felt a small, secret stab of jealousy. However, when my ring catches the light my god it dazzles, and these bigger rings look dull or even grey. So I enjoy that 🙂

Also, when we chatted about his choosing of the ring, my Fiance said he wanted our marriage to be quality and substance over surface flashyness, and I thouht that was so cute that I fell in love with my ring permanently and forever 🙂

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I think you chose fine to go for quality over quantity. I am happy now but suffered from reverse shrinkage for ages and it felt like all the wealthy women around me had tiny stones, like it was a modesty competition or something 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee

lolac :  It’s all personal preference, for sure! 

Not sure of specifics of my ring other than that it is a 1ct princess cut diamond….I care more about it sparkling and appearing more white in color than I do about what size diamond it is. That being said, I wanted at least a 0.7ct and no bigger than a 1.25ct stone, and it didn’t have to be a diamond necessarily but that is what he chose. I just love things that sparkle. I love the look of bigger diamonds, but I didn’t personally want that. 

I did not pick out my ring in the least bit, nor did I know the engagement was happening yet. My hubby did a wonderful job though! He has pinterest boards to thank for that though, because I did put some info on there (that I wanted a princess cut, my ring size, and pinned rings with comments of what I liked or didn’t like about each one). 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would argue that it’s not size, but style that matters most. As in what suits you best, what makes you smile most when you see it, what works best with your lifestyle. I don’t care much about the size of my ring, and I really thought I did. Originally I went in thinking I wanted a much bigger ring, but when I tried it on and imagined my day to day life with it on, all I could think was, wow, I’m going to have to take this thing off all the time, it’s going to knock on everything and drive me nuts. I will say though, it’s exactly this sort of feeling that made me decide Facebook and Instagram were not for me. All I wanted to see was how my friends were doing and I wound up feeling so totally left behind. Now I don’t worry about any of that. I will occasionally look at someone’s ring to see what shape they’ve picked though, it’s pretty interesting to see which kind of people pick certain shapes. It’s not a hard and fast rule for categorizing personalities, but you’d be surprised how often similar people go for similar shapes.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

lolac :  I think the PPs have nailed it! It’s personal preference. My fi started with a budget and worked from there finding how he could maximise what he could get within that budget. I did need to educate him on the 4Cs and that blew his mind ha. I would say he Tried to balance both size and quality to get the best he could. My centre stone is just over 1C, is a G and SI1 ex cut. Not the best and not the ‘worst’ if there is such a thing with diamonds ha. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I couldn’t care less about size or what the specs of a diamond are on paper. To be honest, I don’t know anything about the Cs. I chose a ring solely on what I thought looked pretty in the shop, which was based on the style, what suited me and what reflected our relationship.

If I notice other people’s rings, I never see the size as a reflection of how much their fi loves them, or how rich he is. I see it only as a reflection of the style that that couple prefers. 

I agree with TeacupSeahorse that social media doesn’t help. I started pulling back from Facebook the day that the ‘Motherhood challenge’ began (urghh – what a great example in how to make anyone without a baby feel bad about themselves). 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Nope, size didn’t matter at all to me, althogh finger coverage did — but not of the stone but of the total setting. 

Personal preference for me was having a classic ring on first look, but with interesting design elements that draw you in. That’s pretty much my style-istic approach to everything (clothes, decor, etc). 

I know nothing about diamonds so when I see other people’s rings all I can compare is size — I won’t be able to pick up subtle differences in color/clarity/cut. 

Post # 42
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Helper bee

I just need to comment because its been said over and over on here: just because a woman likes a bigger carat size doesnt mean she’s trying to impress someone else or doesnt know about diamonds. Are you trying to impress someone else because yours is “better” to you because its whiter or clearer or do you just like whiter?? I am not trying to impress anyone, I’m so past that in my life, *I* just like the look of a larger stone because I have huge man hands. ME. I do. I LOVE sparkle. I love a bigger stone. I love how it looks. I had a ‘perfect’ 1 carat in my past and i didn’t like how it looked. I cannot tell a difference at all in D color or I color. I cannot see a difference in VVS1 or VS2, i see nothing different, so why is it so bad that I bought a bigger carat size for me when i cant see a difference at all. I actually educated myself so I could get a bigger stone that looks exactly the same by eye as one with higher specs elsewhere. My stone is antique and i love making up stories in my head about what its seen or been through. My relationship isnt perfect, but it’s perfect for me, so i dont think the stone needs to be perfect, it’s ok that it’s a little beat up, just like me after years of ups and downs before I met my perfect guy, I finally found MY perfect match, and it’s kind of insulting for so many women to think JUST because a woman has a larger carat that she’s trying to impress someone, why cant it just be for her?? Why cant she just like the look of it, she’s the one looking at it all day long. Who are you trying to impress with your “PERFECT” stone? No one, right? You just liked it better than the larger stone. You have your preferences and your perfect and I have mine, i love mine and you love yours. 

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

 I think it’s all about persoanl taste really. I have a 2.56ct I SI2 round as well. cut polish and symetry exelent. With the halo around it and the band its a bit over 3.5 cts total. I love diamonds and wanted at least 2.5. my fingers are also a little smaller than a size 4 so its a decent size on my hand. I love it

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me a stone really can’t be large enough – unless it hides my whole hand I guess. This isn’t because I particularly love a large stone it’s because I can’t stand my hands. I have a two carat oval and it still isn’t big enough in my mind to make my shortish size 6s look feminine. When women have beautiful hands I feel like anything and everything looks beautiful but I especially love dainty rings that emphasize gorgeous hands. That said I do have some limits. I won’t sacrifice visible quality for size, but so much of “perfect” in the 4cs just isn’t visible. I’d be unlikely to buy above VS in clarity or G/F in color but cut needs to be as perfect as possible – that’s where diamonds get their life and their sparkle. Even if you’re assuming your stone is of better quality than another it’s really just a guess because once a stone is set you really can’t tell unless someone has a stone of really poor quality. You’re just not going to see the difference between your Fl and another woman’s VS.

All that being said it really comes down to preference. I care about what I see and I have the caveat of ugly hands. Other women care about what they know about their rings. The most important thing is that hopefully all our partners took into account our unique preferences and/or included us in the process so those preferences could be met. That makes every single ring the most special of purchases…

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ll be honest. I’m not as materialistic in my 40’s as I was in my 20’s or early 30’s. But, I have nicer things now. When I was younger, I wanted to look like I was “better off” than my peers or the person next door or something. It was almost as if I wanted to “prove” that I was successful. Now, I just like nice things because I like the actual item. Not to say that I’m not label conscious, because I still am… but, I guess my motivations have changed? Idk. Internally, my drive is different. It used to be much more of a “competition” than it is now. 

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