(Closed) Would you say this was suspicious?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I think you need to stop trying to figure it out.  You are driving yourself crazy.  It sounds like he wants to save money and stay in for dinner if he is planning on staying in England longer and spending money there.  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You may be right, and it certainly does sound like he’s planning something there.. however if it turns out that he’s not proposing in England, I don’t want you to be crushed.  Is there any way you can distract yourself and focus more on the trip?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I have been rooting for you and J since I joined the Bee.  If this is really what it sounds like, then I will be jumping up and down doing a happy dance for you two.  If not, then heck, you’re going on a vacation to England for crying out loud! That in itself deserves a little happy dance haha

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Sounds like there might be something going on but enjoy your trip anyways. Good luck!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

All I have to say is MMMM vacation 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you may be on to something but I think you need to stop thinking about it.

Let it happen when it happens. I snooped and almost ruined my proposal. Luckily he still surprised me but don’t chance it.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I agree with Crisark.  Something may be in the works, but you don’t want to ruin it for yourself.  Also, you don’t want to set yourself up for disappointment if he doesn’t propose.  Focus on visiting England with him and how you’ve waited so long to go there! 

Just playing devil’s advocate here, but could he want to eat in because he’s saving money for the trip?   

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@GwenvonD: One thing I wish I had known earlier, with BluesGuy, is that men can be trusted more on their actions and not their words. They’ll say anything to keep you strung along and thinking that you’re getting close to a proposal. They like status quo. It’s what they *do* that matters.  

Frankly, I wouldn’t think that you’re getting engaged until you see him pull out a ring box and ask you.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Even though none of those things seem that odd to me, it does seem weird that this far in advance he is talking about not checking his luggage…. Good luck!!

Also, the talking quietly does seem sneaky… 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bluesgirl:

Sadly I have to agree with bluesgirl – all these signs can’t be taken as anything until you see results.

Just go with the flow and enjoy the “will he/wont he” vibes.

But I have to say if I proposed to my SO during his siblings celebrations – it wouldn’t be fair on anyone as it would steal their thunder..

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Oh I drove myself CRAZY with “will he/won’t he” everytime we did anything out of the “norm”  constantly disappointing myself. I would say, enjoy everything you do with him and whether it comes or not, you will still enjoy life!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I think there’s possibility he is definitely planning on something…but who knows?

I find myself creating possible scenarios to fit every occasion/situation that is quite believable but  I’m trying to stop myself from doing that. I only have about a month to wait but this month is going to be the longest month of my entire life. I’m normally very impatient so this will also be a good lesson for me too.

I hope it happens in England!!!! fingers crossed xo

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I hope it happens in England.  If it doesn’t I still hope you can enjoy your time with your SO.  Let us know how the trip goes.

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