(Closed) Would You Send a Gift?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
997 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

That’s tough – sorry to hear about the drama that this is causing your family, and I hope everything works out for the best for your sister.  I would see no harm in sending her a gift.  In the best situation, she would know that you love her and care about her; otherwise, it at least is something she wants from her registry.  Good luck!

Post # 4
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would get her something.  At least let her know you’re there for her and love her.

Not to put a dark side to this story, but have you thought about abuse?  My ex was abusive and when I finally went and got some help, I heard other women talk about how their husbands isolated them from their family and friends.  This way the abuse didn’t get out and it was private.  On the other hand, maybe she’s embarrassed or for whatever shutting you guys out for her own reasons, but I would just explore the abusive side just to make sure. Sorry.

Good luck

Post # 5
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m sorry you are going through this. That’s so sad! Something definitely seems amiss here… especially if you were all very close before he came into the picture. Her husband sounds so controlling, perhaps she does want contact with you, but he won’t allow it?  Is she really TRYING to shut you out of her life or is she really just torn between her new husbands & her family?

I would send her a gift, afterall she is still your sister. I think it may be a nice way to remind her you love her & miss her. 

Post # 6
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ was sorry to read your post; it sounds like you love your sister very much. I too would be concerned about abuse in this situation, especially since, from your post, it sounds like this is unusual behavior from your sister. As IASnoflake said, the first step for an abuser is to isolate the individual from anybody she knew before him – family and friends in particular. I truly hope this isn’t the case here. Can you think of any other explanation for why things happened the way they did? Did your family not like her then-boyfriend/now-husband and perhaps this is why she ran off the way she did? I think it’s important to find out why she did what she did, if you can.


Post # 7
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m so sorry to hear about this situation! Unless your sister has had some MAJOR problems with your family, I would suspect the relationship with her new husband as well. Any time a man says his wife doesn’t go ANYWHERE without him, be concerned. I would extend the olive branch so she knows you’re out there and send a gift you know will be special to her (not expensive, just personally significant) with a nice card. Let her know she has someone she can reach out to, whether there are problems there now or not.

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