Post # 1
Would you send a thank you card basically saying thank you for coming to our wedding and for your generous gift to someone who came but did not leave a gift. I have a couple and a single person who did not give a gift….. I dont want to be rude as I know the guests are not entitled to give a gift.
ADDED NOTE: The cards are already pre typed with the short message to help get the thank you cards out in a short time. Im already passed the 2 months mark sadly.
Post # 3
@Lepidoptera: idk if I would say “and for your generous gift” if they didnt give a gift… I might still send a thank you card for coming though.
Post # 4
@sheepandbear: The card is pre typed. So I wont be hand writting them. I did that for my bridal shower. I couldnt bring myself to do it again. I know, smack on the hand in some people opinions but I’ve seen a LOT of thank you cards lately that have been that way. I plan on writing a small note to the people who traveled out of the country for our wedding though.
Post # 5
Just send a thank you for coming. No need to mention any gifts.
Post # 6
@Lepidoptera: You could go buy a few extra thank you cards to write for these circumstances.
Post # 7
I would also send a “thanks for coming” but definitely not mention a gift–even if it means making an extra handwritten card. Otherwise it comes across very sarcastically!
Post # 8
I’d really reconsider the pre-typed thankyou cards. They come off as completely impersonal. If you’re not willing to hand-write them all, then hand-write just one to this couple and don’t mention gifts. You can get single cards at CVS for like $2.
Post # 9
@Lepidoptera: buy a new card in the 99 cents section and thank them for attending
Post # 10
I would be a lot more offended to receive a typed thank you card than to receive one 3-4 months after the event.
Post # 11
You do not thank a person for attending, that’s what the reception is. You thank a person for a gift. (Since gifts are not required you send a thank you if you get one.)
Post # 12
I wouldn’t send a thank you note to someone who didin’t give me a gift. They got your thank you for attending my wedding by me feeding them.
Secondly I’d rather wait a year for a hand written note than 3 months for a pre typed one. I took the time to shop for your gift you can take the 5 min to write me a thank you note.
Post # 13
Assuming these people didn’t take on significant challenges to get to your wedding, I think the reception, favour and in person thanks at the wedding are enough appreciation for just attending.
I’d really consider putting a personal message in your thank you cards. I kind of feel if I can work my ass off for 10 hours to earn the money for my typical wedding gift, the least it deserves is 2 minutes worth of the recipient’s time to acknowledge it specifically.
Post # 14
@Americano: It’s kind of custom to thank the guests for coming in my traditional European family. I know, it’s a bit much but most people dont even attend the ceremony, they just come to the reception for food and booze.
Post # 15
@HisIrishPrincess: Secondly I’d rather wait a year for a hand written note than 3 months for a pre typed one. I took the time to shop for your gift you can take the 5 min to write me a thank you note.
Post # 16
I agred with the posters who suggested getting some plain thank u cards so it doesnt mention the gift.