(Closed) Would you send a Thank you card if……

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you send the Thank you card?
    YES : (8 votes)
    15 %
    NO : (34 votes)
    62 %
    Other.... explain. : (13 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Lepidoptera:  idk if I would say “and for your generous gift” if they didnt give a gift… I might still send a thank you card for coming though.

    Post # 5
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    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Just send a thank you for coming. No need to mention any gifts.

    Post # 6
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    13290 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Lepidoptera:  You could go buy a few extra thank you cards to write for these circumstances. 

     

    Post # 7
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    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I would also send a “thanks for coming” but definitely not mention a gift–even if it means making an extra handwritten card. Otherwise it comes across very sarcastically!

    Post # 8
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    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d really reconsider the pre-typed thankyou cards. They come off as completely impersonal. If you’re not willing to hand-write them all, then hand-write just one to this couple and don’t mention gifts. You can get single cards at CVS for like $2.

    Post # 9
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    5189 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Lepidoptera:  buy a new card in the 99 cents section and thank them for attending

     

    Post # 10
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    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @fishbone:  +1

    I would be a lot more offended to receive a typed thank you card than to receive one 3-4 months after the event. 

    Post # 11
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    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You do not thank a person for attending, that’s what the reception is. You thank a person for a gift. (Since gifts are not required you send a thank you if you get one.)

    Post # 12
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wouldn’t send a thank you note to someone who didin’t give me a gift.  They got your thank you for attending my wedding by me feeding them. 

    Secondly I’d rather wait a year for a hand written note than 3 months for a pre typed one.  I took the time to shop for your gift you can take the 5 min to write me a thank you note. 

    Post # 13
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    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Assuming these people didn’t take on significant challenges to get to your wedding, I think the reception, favour and in person thanks at the wedding are enough appreciation for just attending.

    I’d really consider putting a personal message in your thank you cards.  I kind of feel if I can work my ass off for 10 hours to earn the money for my typical wedding gift, the least it deserves is 2 minutes worth of the recipient’s time to acknowledge it specifically.

    Post # 15
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    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @HisIrishPrincess: Secondly I’d rather wait a year for a hand written note than 3 months for a pre typed one.  I took the time to shop for your gift you can take the 5 min to write me a thank you note. 

    This.

     

    Post # 16
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I agred with the posters who suggested getting some plain thank u cards so it doesnt mention the gift. 

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