Post # 1
Hi bees. When DH and I married 4 months ago, one of the most generous gift givers was one of my bridesmaids, also a super close friend of DH.
She and her fiancé (whom we had never met until then) traveled across the state, came early and stayed in the hotel for 3 days, gave us a cash gift about 4-5 times what everyone else did, she did my hair for the wedding, they surprised us by booking a room at a fancy hotel the first night of our honeymoon (we were just gonna find something last minute on hotel tonight) and he fiancé bought our flowers for centerpieces(Long story, but he was holding them in line at the market and just did it, only about $50 but refused to let us make it up)
so now bridesmaid and her fiancé secretly went away last week and eloped. They had a beautiful intimate ceremony and we were the first people they told, even before their family. I absolutely want to send some sort of congratulatory gift, but I’m unsure what. They are well off in comparison to DH and I, so sending cash would seem like pocket change to them. However, I hate to send a gift that looks small in comparison to everything they did for us!
Help me bees, what would you do?!
EDIT: our budget is flexible enough that we can spend a couple hundred dollars. However, I’m not sure sending them $300 would mean much to them because that’s a dinner out and drinks for them. It’s nothing in comparison to all they did for us.
Post # 3
They sound like great friends! 🙂 I personally would send a nice gift if you have an idea of something they would like. That way, the emphasis is more on the thought/sentiment than the actual dollar value.
Post # 4
Does she have a registry? (I assume maybe not since they eloped.)
But what about gifting them an experience or date? That way it isn’t cash, but isn’t a gift like wine or a frame that you are unsure if they would use.
Do you know what restaurants they like, or maybe a certain type of food? Or if they live in a larger city you can check out concerts/comedians/shows they may like and gift them that. A gift like this would be meaningful b/c it will show you put thought into it, plus when they think back on that event, it will be because of you. 🙂
Post # 5
@AnnieAAA: That’s a great idea!
Post # 6
Wow, you’re lucky to have such kind and generous friends. Send a gift- I think in this situation, I would give a piece of art or handblown glass. Visit a local artist gallery, or check out Simon Pearce. I love his glass.
Post # 7
@krex: Wow they really do sound great! I would maybe do a cash gift of what you can afford..possibly in a hotel chain gift certificate. You could also pay for an experience from Groupon or something. You can get greal deals on dinner, couples massages, fun activities like whale watching etc.
Then to step it up and make it a little more personable. Perhaps you could stop by Things Remembered and get a frame or champagne flutes engraved with their Mr and Mrs X on it. It wouldn’t be more than $50.
If you are really budgeting, hit the dollar store! I know it seems tacky but they have beautiful frames, glasses, candle sets, home decor things like that. You can make a whole “newly wed” package.
Post # 8
@krex: I would send a physical gift. I always feel weird giving money if I’m not there in person. I had to miss a friend’s wedding this past fall and I sent her a really nice (IMO) silver Kate Spade picture frame that has a little Mr & Mrs engraved on it. Simple, pretty, something I knew they would like. If i’d gone to the wedding they would have gotten cash/cheque.
Post # 9
Maybe do something personalized or unique? The best thing you can give to someone who has everything is something fromyour heart IMO. Check out Etsy for some great ideas.
Post # 10
I would send a gift and a letter! Maybe surprise them with a mini-cation on their 1 month or 6 month anniversary? Groupon/LivingSocial/Amazon Local generally have nearby minications on deal!