Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2009 - Phoenix Art Museum
so my dilemma is…. i gave a std to some people, who i later discovered are in another wedding on the same date (as in bridesmaids/groomsmen/ushers) or verbally said, “sorry i’m socially obligated to go to the other wedding.”
i KNOW etiquette says i have to send them an invite too, but in the name of practicality… should i?
I am pretty sure most of them won’t even notice not receiving an invite (a lot of them are guys in their early 20s…)
Post # 3
Technically I think you should but in this case I think you can just tell them your reasonings (assuming you are good friends with them).
Post # 4
I would go ahead and send them one. You’re probably right – if they’re anything like my 20+ year old guy friends, they’ll have no idea that they never received one, or even that they were supposed to. heck – they probably were stunned by the STD!
But if I were in that situation, I would just feel better if I sent them an invite anyhow. Also, how many of them are there? If we’re talking about more than 10 invites (or thereabouts), then I might hesitate, but sending an invite is such a small gesture that it would be worth it to me for small numbers.
Post # 5
i would just talk to them to confirm they aren’t going to be able to make it. then just let them know that you won’t be sending an invite. i really don’t think they’ll mind!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I think since they’re 20-somethings, you can just talk to them and double check their coming/not-coming status. If it were older people, you’d need to send invites probably.
Post # 7
Sorry but if you sent them a STD you have to send an invite. Who knows maybe some of them will change their mind and go to your wedding instead.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Send the invites. People start holding weird grudges when it comes to weddings; don’t risk it.
Post # 9
Agree with marigold….you never know how people can react to not receiving an invite, so I would send one.
Post # 10
I agree, it’s definitely not worth upsetting someone by not sending it. Personally, I would be upset if someone didn’t send me an invite, even if I already knew I couldn’t go.
Post # 11
I’d probably send them invites if you had sent them Save-The-Date Cards. Even if they can’t attend, it’s a nice gesture.
Post # 12
If they are 20something year old guys, I’d point blank ask them if they still want an invite for the wedding, even though they can’t come. If it were older guests, I would send them one, but because they’re young, single guys… I doubt they’ll care.
Just talk to them!
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
I agree with the masses. You should probably send them an invite too.
Post # 14
Send them one…I felt the same way about some of my guests (said it’s 99.9 percent change they couldn’t come) but I felt it brought “closure” for me somehow.
Post # 15
I agree send them an invite. It will be easier on you anyways. Because you’ll be wondering if John or Joe said they couldn’t come. You’d hate to get someone confused etc. Plus depending on the times of the events they may still could come for a bit. Better safe then sorry.