(Closed) would you send them an invite?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I send them an invite anyways?
    It's ok - you don't need to send them an invite. : (6 votes)
    18 %
    You HAVE to send them an invite! : (15 votes)
    44 %
    Email/talk with them and let them know you won't be sending them an invite. : (13 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Technically I think you should but in this case I think you can just tell them your reasonings (assuming you are good friends with them).

    Post # 4
    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would go ahead and send them one.  You’re probably right – if they’re anything like my 20+ year old guy friends, they’ll have no idea that they never received one, or even that they were supposed to.  heck – they probably were stunned by the STD! 

    But if I were in that situation, I would just feel better if I sent them an invite anyhow.  Also, how many of them are there?  If we’re talking about more than 10 invites (or thereabouts), then I might hesitate, but sending an invite is such a small gesture that it would be worth it to me for small numbers.   

    Post # 5
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would just talk to them to confirm they aren’t going to be able to make it. then just let them know that you won’t be sending an invite. i really don’t think they’ll mind!!

    Post # 6
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I think since they’re 20-somethings, you can just talk to them and double check their coming/not-coming status. If it were older people, you’d need to send invites probably.

    Post # 7
    599 posts
    Busy bee

    Sorry but if you sent them a STD you have to send an invite. Who knows maybe some of them will change their mind and go to your wedding instead.

    Post # 8
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Send the invites. People start holding weird grudges when it comes to weddings; don’t risk it.

    Post # 9
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Agree with marigold….you never know how people can react to not receiving an invite, so I would send one.

    Post # 10
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree, it’s definitely not worth upsetting someone by not sending it.  Personally, I would be upset if someone didn’t send me an invite, even if I already knew I couldn’t go.

    Post # 11
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d probably send them invites if you had sent them Save-The-Date Cards.  Even if they can’t attend, it’s a nice gesture.

    Post # 12
    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    If they are 20something year old guys, I’d point blank ask them if they still want an invite for the wedding, even though they can’t come. If it were older guests, I would send them one, but because they’re young, single guys… I doubt they’ll care.

    Just talk to them!

    Post # 13
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas

    I agree with the masses.  You should probably send them an invite too.

    Post # 14
    3285 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Send them one…I felt the same way about some of my guests (said it’s 99.9 percent change they couldn’t come) but I felt it brought “closure” for me somehow.

    Post # 15
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I agree send them an invite.  It will be easier on you anyways.  Because you’ll be wondering if John or Joe said they couldn’t come.  You’d hate to get someone confused etc.  Plus depending on the times of the events they may still could come for a bit.  Better safe then sorry.

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