Post # 17
IMO – if they got you a gift, they get a thank you. If they didn’t get a gift, then no thank you. Honestly, it seems like fishing for a gift to send a thank you to someone who didn’t get you anything. You already thanked them for coming at the wedding and likely also gave them a favor as thank you. That is plenty if they didn’t get you a gift!
Post # 18
I whole heartedly agree with FutureKMM! You’ve already hosted your guests and provided them with an evening out. They thank you, not the other way around.
Post # 19
I would send a thank you to both of them.
The Bridesmaid or Best Man gave a gift, no matter how crappy it was. You don’t have to thank her for anything BUT the gift (no mention of how “helpful” she was).
As far as the relative, if they traveled I would send them a thank you card. I also had a cousin come in from NY and didn’t give a gift (although my aunt said he’s still giving one, but we certainly don’t expect one). They spent their time, and a lot of money, to fly down for our wedding.
Post # 20
I would send cards to both of them. Especially the BM! I know you didn’t like it, but she gave you a present, and $70 isn’t peanuts! But also to the old people who travelled.
Post # 21
@FinallyMarried82: Wow, you should have had a guard at the door charging admission to ensure everyone covered their plate.
Anyone who gave you a gift should receive a thank you note – regardless of how unsatisfactory you found the gift or how ungrateful you are for it. If they didn’t give you a gift, no thank you note is owed.