Post # 46
I have a moissanite but I didn’t settle. I chose it wholeheartedly. I have diamonds but no longer wear them because I prefer my moissy. I really love the colours and sparkles. I think it’s an outstanding choice if it is genuinely what you want. I never pretend it’s a diamond and I am not concerned with people’s opinions or doing “the done thing” in area of my life so I suppose that helps!
Post # 47
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
c3lloninja : I think we’re all entitled to our preferences and feelings on diamonds and moissanites, etc.. Like your boyfriend, my husband is quite traditional and it wasn’t even a question of whether or not my engagement ring would be a diamond ring. As an April baby, diamonds are my birthstone and I’ve always preferred them to simulants. We were fortunate enough to easily afford the ring that I wanted. To some, it’s the actual resale value of a diamond that matters. For example, if you plan to trade in and upgrade later (I don’t), you’re going to get more for a diamond versus a moissanite or CZ. To each their own!
Post # 48
greeneyedbee : Moissanite was found in space (I mean from meter) but there’s no moissanite in the earth. All the moissanite that are available for sale from any companies are lab grown, simply man made stone. Cz is simply lab grown, man made stone and also moissy is lab grown, simply man made stone just higher quality, but still man made.
Post # 49
It’s gotten a bit hostile in here 😜
But to answer your question. I think you have already made up your mind. If you feel you are settling then no. The only thing anyone else can tell you is their opinion on diamond vs other stones. But what is yours? Some people have a lot of opinions about rings because of their experience, emotion, conflict, minamlism etc. But if you want a diamond and the only issue is the price then just get a small one for now and upgrade later. My Fiance and I were fortunate as we both inherited family rings. So our perspective differs a great deal from yours. Regardless I hope you are happy with whatever choice you make.
Post # 50
Tradition would actually call for a gemstone or an engraved ring. Diamonds bring the thing is a product of a marketing campaign, they are not rare or special. They are very pretty. You pay a high price because the same people who launched the campaign bought up the diamonds to make it appear as though they’re worth more by charging more.
But if you want and can afford a diamond then don’t ‘settle’.
Post # 51
I have a diamond and was not involved in choosing my ring. I originally asked Darling Husband to propose with my grandmother’s heirloom diamond though. If Darling Husband and I had met younger, didn’t have the heirloom ring option, or were less financially stable when we started dating, I absolutely would have talked to him about moissanite.
I also wouldn’t call it settling either. I think that lots of couples choose moissanite for financially prudent reasons (and having other priorities/goals). I also think every gal deserves a ring they are happy with and for (some) shiny lovers magpies, a nice sized moissanite is more appealing than a modest budget friendly diamond. It’s all legit to me.
Post # 52
bklyn18 : Thanks. It’s an ENV moissanite from JYB Jewels with a medium culet (8mm). I’m really enjoying it. Hope you’re enjoying your gorgeous honking diamond! Looking forward to seeing how you set it.
Post # 53
- Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens
I settled with an Asha (CZ) because of our situation at the time we got engaged. For our 5 year anniversary, my husband got me a diamond. Looking back on it, I would have gotten a smaller diamond FIRST and upgraded it later. I didn’t research diamonds like I should have. I got scared away from diamonds by ring shopping at major retail stores. When we went in to look, they kept steering us toward the designer rings (tacori/verragio). I saw the price and freaked out and said heck no i’m going with a simulant. If I would have checked the price on a good half carat diamond on james allen I would have jumped on that in a minute. I was too busy researching simulants. I got my setting from James Allen and if I was to do it all over again, I would have gotten a diamond from them too. I didn’t realize they were more affordable than I thought.
Post # 54
manderson62 : oooh she has beautiful stones! I definitely will be looking into her ACC cuts now, so beautiful and you never see that cut anymore (in general population).
Thank you!! The bee will be the first to see, I’m still not 100% decided yet!
Post # 55
While I don’t think getting a moissanite is settling at all, you should get what makes you happy. You’re the only person that will have to wear it and look at it everyday so it should be something that you would love to have.
Post # 56
Darling Husband would only consider a diamond which is fine as that is what I prefer. I actually don’t care for any lab grown stone whether it’s a moissanite/syn sapphire/syn ruby, etc. To me, they just don’t look right.
Post # 57
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
Nope I wouldn’t consider moissanite, I’d personally rather have the real deal
Post # 58
Have realistic expectations for yourself. No, you do not have to “settle” for moissanite if it is not your jam. However, that probably means you are not going to have a big giant diamond of your dreams if you cannot afford it and will have to “settle” for a small one.
Post # 59
- Wedding: June 2018 - Outdoor
Many people have pointed out pros and cons of basically each stone. Personally, I have a moissanite stone and it is beautiful. I got it out of ethical reasons and the desire for a harder, clear stone so I would be less likely to damage it. One thing I want to stress to the OP would be to research your options thoroughly. Many simulant diamonds out there (if you choose the diamond rout but are looking for something more ethical) you need to be careful about knowing what they really are. Real lab created diamonds should cost just as much as a real diamond from the ground. If you find ones that are significantly cheaper, they are likely CZ with a carbon coating. These tend to grow foggy over time. I (being raised frugally) cannot fease the price of a diamond as it seems unreasonable but I did not feel like getting a moissanite stone was settling. I even opted to add some sapphires to mine that are natural because lab grown stones only really go so small for a decent price. You really should take plenty of time to think about it and let your heart tell you what it feels is best for you. If it is a diamond from the ground with imperfections that you find give it character, so be it. Just be aware and informed when making these decisions.
Post # 60
Get both. My moissy jewels are gorgeous and i feel better wearing them in certain situations (bachelorette party, vacations, anytime i “might” lose a ring / earring but still want to wear some bling, interesting styles that I don’t want to spend serious money on. etc) If you aren’t too worried about pricing, try a pair of moissy earring studs to see if you like how moissys perform (while getting a classic jewelry piece anyway).
FWIW-My everyday wedding set is platinum and diamond, my everyday RHR is 1carat white gold.