(Closed) Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
    If my FI asked me to sign a prenup, that would be like planning for divorce. I would break it off. : (50 votes)
    21 %
    Yes, I think it's wise to sign a prenup. : (77 votes)
    32 %
    If the circumstances surrounding the prenup were somehow non-divorce-related, then yes. : (47 votes)
    20 %
    I would sign it to protect my own assets in the event of divorce. : (46 votes)
    19 %
    Other. : (20 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 17
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    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I said “other”, because I might sign one, but it would depend on the contents of it.

    Post # 18
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    1759 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We are going to sign one. I don’t really care either way. He is much wealther than I am, but I don’t want his stuff if we get divorced, anyway. I am an INDEPENDENT WOMAN dammit. I didn’t need him before, I won’t need him after. lol. That being said, I am strongly against divorce and we’re really good at solving problems, so I think we’ll make it.

    Post # 19
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i wouldn’t want to sign one, i think you ought to take the “forever” side of marriage seriously- but i wouldn’t break off the engagement if he asked for one, i’m sure he would have valid reasons to want one that didn’t involve planning for a divorce.

    Post # 20
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    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @MrsCoachBtoBee: This reasoning is actually why we signed a pre-nup.  I didn’t really care, but my father brought it up.  Fiance and I met in school, and he has more than twice as much student loan debt as I do, because my parents helped pay for school.  Also, my parents are giving us money for a down payment on our house.  If we got divorced, then all of that money my parents spent would essentially go half into his pocket.  So my father (a lawyer) wanted us to sign one.  We both had no problem with it.  We obviously don’t plan on needing it, but I completely understand.  It actually feels more to me like an agreement between him and my dad as opposed to him and I, but it certainly isn’t going to tear us apart or anything.  My father actually loves my fiance, but as an attorney, I certainly understand his caution.

    Post # 21
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    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wasn’t really keen on the idea, but Fi’s family requires one. He knows i’m not a gold digger and I have my own assets to worry about.

    Post # 22
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    We thought about it and decided it was not for us. I, for one, feel like it’s planning for a divorce… But he has more assets and has heard many horror stories so he was interested in the idea.

    In the end, we decided that there are soo many ways to split the assets depending on how many years spent together, whether or not we have children and if we decided that I would stay home to raise the children or not, and other details that no prenup that we would agree on today would be fair and representative of the life we had together in the event of a divorce.

    We also looked at the divorce laws in our area and found that what the law planned for was fair and protected both partners.

    So we decided on no prenup, which is good, because what a headache to plan for something that will not happen! 🙂

    Post # 23
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    2339 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    No! He knows that my vows before God are enough and wouldn’t need a piece of paper to solidfy them in any way.

    Post # 24
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    3774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    Not a chance.  My marriage is sacred and it could not see make a back up plan “just in case.”

    Post # 25
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    7586 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I have one. I have more assets than he does. I asked him to sign it. I think when you have money, it’s just understood.

    Melini

    your statement about inhertitance is incorrect. What your saying is law in most states isn’t true either. Most prenups say that spouse is only entitled to half of what’s earned while together.  Plus, a lot of times it isn’t an inheritance issue, but a family business issue. if my Darling Husband came to help me with my Dad’s family business and then we got divorced he could say that he was entitled due to his involvement if we didn’t have a prenup.

    Post # 26
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    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would. Unfortunate things happen that cause divorces other than cheating and lying. People need to protect themselves. Fiance and I haven’t decided if we are going to have one drawn up because the assets we have we already share equally.

    Post # 27
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    336 posts
    Helper bee

    We will both be fresh out of school, without any assets so it wouldn’t really be necessary for us.  However, since prenups can also cover what can happen if one spouse dies, I wuld definitely consider it if one of us was going into marriage with anything significant or with children.

    Post # 28
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    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I signed one.  The FH had a really nasty divorce with his ex, for the FH it is more of a security blanket than planning for a divorce. 

    Post # 29
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    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If my fiance asked me to sign one, yes I would feel insulted. But I would hide it and sign it. I love him. I wouldn’t want him to think I was only marrying him for his money.

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