Post # 1
ok, if you’ve read my past posts you know that i want to have a small under 50 person wedding and would love to have it this fall. i always have known that SO has known this, but we were at dinner on wednesday and he was like “um, that’s 6 months away” so i’m like “yeah, what’s taking you so long?” 😉 i then asked him matter of factly if we could get married this october and he said YES! and he is not the kind of guy just to tell me something to make me happy, he is very black and white and very honest with me about all things. it’s one of the main reasons i love him dearly. so…with him saying yes to October, a proposal has to be around the corner i’m thinking in the next 3 months. here’s my question, it will be a small wedding but will obviously need planning. do i start planning now and just keep my mouth shut about it or is that crazy and i should wait until there’s a ring on my finger? we will be getting married at his family’s beach house in the obx so i don’t need to book a venue and i’m not talking planning like booking things, but just getting general ideas together and maybe get some quotes here and there. what would you do?
Post # 3
I think you can do some preliminary things – scope out some caterers/djs/bands/ etc online, think about what type of dress you want, decide if you want a theme, etc. but I personally would not start full on planning until I was engaged. If he agreed to October he must be planning to propose soon, right? I would hope!
Post # 5
Just ask him upfront if you can. I’m in a similar situation – we’re planning a large wedding during a popular season (August 2014) and we aren’t getting formally engaged until December.
When he said that he wanted the late summer 2014 wedding and a December 2013 engagement, I said that was fine but we’d probably need to book some places and do some work before the ring. He said great, we’ve already started booking – and looking at other vendors.
If he’s on board for serious planning, go ahead with it, because if you’ve agreed to get married in October, you’re technically engaged. If he isn’t, you will 100% want to begin at least collecting ideas if you plan on the short engagement. Especially where the dress is concerned. You could also put together lists of area vendors that have good reviews who you could call.