(Closed) Would you stay if he/she didn't want to marry?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Can you go to counsiling?

Post # 7
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533 posts
Busy bee

[content moderated for snark] I was simply pointing out that you had already posted the same topic. There generally is a rule about them.

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Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Upsetc:  iam so sorry you are going thru this sweet heart.

MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU!!!!! we have all been there when we though this guy is it.

and it turns out to be not it and im so sorry for you ive been there but God has a much better plan for you trust that.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Milo:  calm down sweet heart who cares if she has posted the same one?!?!

she is obviously crying out to us bees for help and a ear to listen to her.

in her time of need don’t be cruel luv. never laugh at someones broken heart or cries.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think it would depend on whether I loved the person or not. If I loved them unconditionally and enough to even think about marriage then  I would rather have them in my life than out of it period. So if that meant not getting married then yes I would stay!

Edited to add- i just read your original post and it is obvious that you both want different things so I if it was me I would leave. Your only other option is to accept the fact that he wont change.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Upsetc:  Dont worry about deleting your post, I dont mind if its similar, I didnt see your other post anyway.  I do think you need to try to get to the bottom of the issue your SO has with marriage.  Is his lack of interest in marrying you the only problem, if you are both happy in other aspects would he consider eloping with you?  What is your main desire, is it to have a big wedding or just be married?  Is he shy in front of people?  It is a shame to leave if all other aspects you are happy together.

Post # 12
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t marry a guy who doesn’t want to marry me.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If you went to councelling five years ago and nothing’s changed what makes you think it’s ever going to change? Not being rude, but I spent 5 yrs with a guy who couldn’t keep away from other women and I realise your situation is different but my ex was never going to change I realised one day and got out of that relationship. Sometimes you have to accept that change is not going to happen. Dont waste another five years.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The Boards do seem to be a bit quieter now that Summer is here… lots of Bees getting married, and others are outside / on vacation, enjoying the great weather… if you don’t feel there is enough response to a topic, then I suggest that you just go ahead and ^BUMP^ up your topic.

Also agree with MILO that I believe there are indeed rules about multiple topics on the Boards with similiar / same topics

As for your recent comments / EDIT in this topic now (you have removed the original post) … where you state

I’ve deleted my post as MILO says I can’t put a similar post in 24 hours tbh I couldn’t give. F about milo who seriously needs to get a life and stop stalking posters 😉

Don’t know what that is all about (certainly appears to be RUDE)… considering a fellow Bee was just trying to help you out IMO

Not cool on your part…

Suspect that those comments will be seen as inappropriate and deleted by the Mods

PS… As your other topic is more complete (with the Original Question) I will post my reply there

 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Milo:  Are you the forum police? No, didn’t think so. The only time a mod will close a duplicate thread is if it’s actually a duplicate thread which I’m guessing this was not. The OP created a new post so deal with it. If you’re so bothered by it then by all means, hit the back button.

OP: I’m not sure what your post said but I’ll just comment based off of the title. No, I don’t think I could be with someone who didn’t want to marry me. I know people who this works for and they have great relationships but I wanted/needed the security and commitment that marriage offers. 

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