Post # 1
I just read about a reality TV’s stars husband being sentenced to 8 yeas in prison for fraud. A good thing to note is when they met he had only been out of prison for a year or so on another fraud related charge. They now have two children and she is a lawyer (yes, I’m referring to Pheadra Parks from RHOA).. my question is : Even if it was his first mistake, would you stay with your husband who had a lengthy jail sentence to serve?
I know a lot of people truly believe til death do you part? What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
MeandMyLouboutins: I wouldn’t! I feel so bad for her and her two babies. Eight years is such a long time. He should be ashamed of himself for putting his family in this situation. Clearly he didn’t learn his lesson when he went to prison the first time, and I wouldn’t be able to trust him not to do it again. If your family isn’t enough motivation to keep you on the straight and narrow, I’m not sure what is.
Post # 3
Not for something like fraud. While I dont watch the show or know anything about the specifics on the case, fraud to me always seems like you are doing something illegal just to do it. My mom always said if someone broke into your car to steal your grocerys, they need the grocerys more than you. It doesn’t make it right or less wrong, but I could stay if I could justify the “mistake”. (If that makes any sense lol).
Post # 4
Honestly, it would depend on the crime. Something like fraud leads me to believe that my husband is a liar and cheats people, which I would not stand for. I wouldn’t be able to trust him due to his lack of morals. Even if he was good to me. It would also be hard to be with a convicted felon because it would be extremely difficult for them to ever get a decent job. My FI and I are a team, if I am being completely honest, I think I would grow to resent him for allowing all the financial burden placed upon me due to his greed, stupidity, whatever. Length of time he is serving would be the least of my worries.
Post # 5
It would depend on the crime but in her case when she got with him he was already a criminal.
Post # 6
It really depends on the crime. If he beat up or killed someone for trying to hurt me or our family? Yeah definitely. Fraud? Probably not.
Post # 7
I second PPs. It definitely depends on the crime.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I would absolutely stay with my husband. For me, it’s not about “till death do us part.” It’s just because I love him and accept who he is and want to be with him. He’s not stupid, so he’s not going to be committing a criminal act that I don’t know about. I would probably be in on it too honestly or when I found out about it, I would tell him he needs to stop cause otherwise he’s going to get caught and go to jail. But I would never turn him in and I would never divorce him just because he’s going to jail.
Post # 9
Christy42213: Interesting – would you still stay if he murdered someone? does the type of crime change your response?
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
MeandMyLouboutins: The type of crime doesn’t matter as long as it’s not a crime against me or our children. Neither of us would put up with abuse. My DH and I have actually discussd this. We will always help the other person bury the body, LOL! We’re not criminals now and I HIGHLY doubt we’ll ever commit a crime. It’s just one of those hypothetical things we’ve talked about. We love each other unconditionally.
Post # 11
Christy42213: Wow, well nobody could ever say you’re not loyal 😉
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
MeandMyLouboutins: As others have stated, it would depend on the crime. For better or worse, right? However, I doubt there is really anything I would find acceptable. It is just one of those things that I could not say what I would actually do until I was in the situation.
Post # 14
Christy42213: I guess I would see him committing a crime that resulted in incarceration as something that would be harmful to you and your children…since it negatively impacts your family. Anywho…
I wouldn’t stay with my husband if he murderded someone or committed a really heinous crime because that isn’t the man I married or would ever marry. An accident or precarious situation is one thing, but a cold blooded calculated/pre-meditated crime is different.
Post # 15
No I wouldn’t especially for violent crimes. I think some people come out of jail reformed but it’s the restrictions placed on life after that I could never deal with.
I read an study recently that said we have so many laws on the books now that the average person commits 3 felonies per day and doesn’t even know it.