Post # 1

Member
2714 posts
Sugar bee
Okay here is the deal ladies.
I was planning on DIYing my invites.
My mom thinks that it will be too much work for me and offered to pay to have them ordered.
I was kinda looking forward to it though!
On one hand, I don’t have anyone to help me (long distance family and wedding party) so I would have to make them all myself.
On the other hand… I did think it would be fun and I was kinda looking forward to personalizing our invitations.
WWYD??
Post # 3

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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
It depends on why you are diying. If you are doing it to save money then you just accept her offer but if you are doing it because you want to have unique personalized invites then you can still DIY certain aspects of it even if she pays for the invites.
Post # 4

Hostess
11279 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@TinyTina: Personally I would have someone pay. But that’s cos mine didn’t measure up to the ones I saw that were DIYed on here, I mean they looked professionally made.
Post # 5

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3148 posts
Sugar bee
@bells: I was going to suggest something similiar. At least have all of the printing done for you and you can always add personal belly bands or details onto the invite.
Post # 6

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1542 posts
Bumble bee
I would have the card done in a pretty printed or embroided way (if someone offered to pay for it) and do the envelopes and decoration, and of course ensemble, myself. I do want mine to be personal so I’m determined to give it a personal touch.
Post # 7

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624 posts
Busy bee
My plan was to design the invites but when I started looking into it, I realized that it would have cost more in the end. All though you may not find that true. Personally, I was consumed with getting the guest list together before focusing on the invites. That was a million times more challenging than I anticipated. By the time I started thinking about the invites, it would have been very late to start the design process.
Post # 8

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216 posts
Helper bee
I DIYed our invitations and I was kind of in the same boat as you. My wedding, family, and friends were all in South Florida while my husband (who is in med school and ALWAYS busy) and I were in Atlanta. I still did the invitations myself because I was excited about the finished product and it gave me something to do. I loved getting the compliments about them anyway 😉 Who wouldn’t?! I say if you have the time, and you were looking forward to it, DIY away!
My wedding invitations
Post # 9

Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Well I’m not a DIY person so I would most definitely take someone up on the offer to pay.
‘d say let your mom pay for the invites and perhaps use your time and additional budget to make something else. There has to be something else that you can add.
Post # 10

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5668 posts
Bee Keeper
@TinyTina: If I were looking forward to the DIY or I felt that another project I was planning on was more cumbersome I would request the funds be diverted in a different direction. If I didn’t care I’d let them pay.
Post # 12

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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
My uncle is printing our invites for free. 🙂 BUT I still plan on embossing a peony stamp on the invites and putting it all together nicely with my personal spin on things. The good thing is that we walk away with personalized invitations that are letterpressed. 🙂 Sounds like a deal to me!
Post # 13

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17 posts
Newbee
It depends on what you want…I say to start looking at invites she could purchase for you and see if you like any… some come with the cards printed and you can still decorate and add things to them and put them together… also, if you just want to have some DIY projects then there are always tons of other DIY things you can do like wedding fans, programs, place cards, etc.
Post # 14

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Honey Beekeeper
I view my parents money the same way I veiw mine, if I’m not willing to spend my money on something, I’m not willing to waste their hard earned money either. If I wanted to buy invites but had to DIY because my budget didnt allow, then I would accept and buy invites. If I simply wanted to DIY for fun and save some money, I would still DIY, and insist I want to have fun with them and ask if she could maybe buy the supplies instead as a way to help out.
Post # 15

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3344 posts
Sugar bee
I would still DIY. I searched for months and months and never found any invitation suites that I liked. I could’ve had someone on Etsy do it for me, but I prefered to just do it myself instead of try to communicate what I wanted and not being sure if the product would be what I wanted.
Post # 16

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3314 posts
Sugar bee
I had that choice come up too but with my centerpieces. I chose to DIY anyway because I really wanted to personalize them! I think if it’s something you want to do and feel like you can without driving yourself totally crazy, then do it!