(Closed) Would you still expect gifts? If so, what price range?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you expect to receive monetary gifts from attending guests? If so, how much?

    No, they've spent enough

    Yes, whatever they can afford is fine, I'm thrilled they made the trip

    Yes, $0-$50

    Yes, $51-$100

    $101-$150

    Yes, $151-$200

    Yes, $201-$250

    Yes, $251-$300

    Yes, >$300

  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I am disgusted by this story. I’ll just say it. So many things wrong I can’t even begin to enumerate.

    Post # 4
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Uh, if I were a guest at this wedding, I would probably give a $50 gift. Not cash/check, but a gift.

    Post # 5
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    6350 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I cant believe they wrote that!

    Post # 6
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yikes. Um… I stupidly voted before I read the story. I think when it comes to traveling for weddings, people should give whatever they want to / whatever they can afford. If you can’t afford a gift, that’s cool! “Your presence is your gift – gifts are for old rich people,” as I keep telling all my friends. But what that couple is doing is really rude. I’d skip the wedding, to be honest.

    Post # 8
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    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Umm…..wow!! I’ve never heard of anything like this! It’s completely out of line and rude! If it’s a family member you feel comfortable talking to, I would consider telling her that you’re concerned guests may be put off by her request/outright demand for money! If you do attend I would get her a card only with a max of $20 in it just to prove a point!

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee

    That is apalling. I would probably write a note saying I am so glad to celebrate the day with them but given the cost of attending I am not able to provide the gift they requested” If they can address/request, then you should be able to address it as well.

    Post # 10
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    6391 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Oh wow…I’m speechless! How gracious of her to send that pre-programmed electronic thank you ;).

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    will graciously accept monetary gifts…

    Yes, how gracious of them! The electronic thank you cards especially! WOW.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    This is really horrible and in very poor tast. Personally, I wouldn’t go to the wedding or send them a card or a gift of any kind. I probably wouldn’t even send back the RSVP, just because I would feel so disgusted after receiving something like this. I can’t even comprehend why they did this or even what they were thinking when they did it.

    Post # 13
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @tootietoo2: Wow, what a thoughtless couple.

    Post # 14
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    oh my.  If i were going I wouldn’t give a gift.  If I didn’t go I’d get a physical gift, I like that idea.

    That is the rudest save the date ever.

    I’m having a Destination Wedding and I’m def gonna say that their presence is the best gift.

    Post # 15
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    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    They really just sound like very self centered people. I would skip the wedding and re-evaluate if I should consider them friends.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    A gift, but not necesarily money. If the person in the bridal party is a bit strapped for cash a framed picture frame with a sweet card would be just as nice (well maybe not) as 300 bucks. But I do expect SOMETHING, just depends on what one can afford. So I didn’t answer your poll.

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