(Closed) Would you still expect gifts? If so, what price range?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you expect to receive monetary gifts from attending guests? If so, how much?
    No, they've spent enough : (126 votes)
    51 %
    Yes, whatever they can afford is fine, I'm thrilled they made the trip : (91 votes)
    37 %
    Yes, $0-$50 : (8 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, $51-$100 : (11 votes)
    4 %
    $101-$150 : (6 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, $151-$200 : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, $201-$250 : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, $251-$300 : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Yes, >$300 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I am disgusted by this story. I’ll just say it. So many things wrong I can’t even begin to enumerate.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Uh, if I were a guest at this wedding, I would probably give a $50 gift. Not cash/check, but a gift.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I cant believe they wrote that!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yikes. Um… I stupidly voted before I read the story. I think when it comes to traveling for weddings, people should give whatever they want to / whatever they can afford. If you can’t afford a gift, that’s cool! “Your presence is your gift – gifts are for old rich people,” as I keep telling all my friends. But what that couple is doing is really rude. I’d skip the wedding, to be honest.

    Post # 8
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    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Umm…..wow!! I’ve never heard of anything like this! It’s completely out of line and rude! If it’s a family member you feel comfortable talking to, I would consider telling her that you’re concerned guests may be put off by her request/outright demand for money! If you do attend I would get her a card only with a max of $20 in it just to prove a point!

    Post # 9
    Member
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    That is apalling. I would probably write a note saying I am so glad to celebrate the day with them but given the cost of attending I am not able to provide the gift they requested” If they can address/request, then you should be able to address it as well.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Oh wow…I’m speechless! How gracious of her to send that pre-programmed electronic thank you ;).

    Post # 11
    Member
    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    will graciously accept monetary gifts…

    Yes, how gracious of them! The electronic thank you cards especially! WOW.

    Post # 12
    Member
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    This is really horrible and in very poor tast. Personally, I wouldn’t go to the wedding or send them a card or a gift of any kind. I probably wouldn’t even send back the RSVP, just because I would feel so disgusted after receiving something like this. I can’t even comprehend why they did this or even what they were thinking when they did it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @tootietoo2: Wow, what a thoughtless couple.

    Post # 14
    Member
    4770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    oh my.  If i were going I wouldn’t give a gift.  If I didn’t go I’d get a physical gift, I like that idea.

    That is the rudest save the date ever.

    I’m having a Destination Wedding and I’m def gonna say that their presence is the best gift.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    They really just sound like very self centered people. I would skip the wedding and re-evaluate if I should consider them friends.

    Post # 16
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    A gift, but not necesarily money. If the person in the bridal party is a bit strapped for cash a framed picture frame with a sweet card would be just as nice (well maybe not) as 300 bucks. But I do expect SOMETHING, just depends on what one can afford. So I didn’t answer your poll.

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