(Closed) Would you still marry this guy?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Had he received and read your texts and calls?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Based only on that, it isn’t likely that I could. You know him though, not me.  Have you talked to him about it? Is this a reoccuring thing? Does he often put himself before you?

Sorry for all the questions, I just need a few things clarified before I give more support or advice.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Are you sure that he actually got and read the first message? 

If he didn’t read the message until 8pm then he didn’t know what was going on.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can understand where you are coming from, but you also need to understand that if he’s at work he can drop everything right away. Things do come up. I imagine he would have expected a text if you would have been taken to the hospital or a call from the hospital for that matter, and at that point I’m sure he’d be in a hurry to be at your side. However, I think he was trusting you could take care of yourself, and if anything were to happen, he would have heard. 

 

For my fiance, once he’s out in the field I’m on my own pretty much. If there is an ABSOLUTE emergency and I am being transported to the hospital, there’s a special number I call and dispatch contacts him. It’s not a big deal to me though because if I need him, I have the ability to contact him. 

I would talk with him and see what was up, express that you were kind of upset that he didn’t seem concerned. I don’t see it as a reason to not marry someone, it sounds like there might be some other things that you are questioning? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Everdeen:  Good question. I’d want answers to that first before I thought he just didn’t give a hoot.

If he was working, he may have been “out of pocket.”

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes. Lots of men are irresponsible like that. Do you have kids yet? How old is he? How long have you been together? My husband does stupid irresponsible sh*t all the time, especially when we first got together. It would take a helluva lot more than a text message for me to call off an engagement. You’ll be facing much larger hurdles than this one in the future… that’s for sure.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you’re asking us this question, this is definitely NOT the first time your Fiance has been insenstive to, or has dismissed, your concerns or feelings about something important to you. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

i can understand why your upset but unless this is something that happens often i wouldnt see it as a huge issue, he may not of got the text or not read it untill much later.

my Fiance works a very focus demanding job and has little reception, so unless he takes a break (not often) and goes outside he may not even get text messages untill he finishes work which is meant to be 5pm but sometimes not untill 7 or 8 at night

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, with that said, my Husband would have called 911 for me and would have beat the ambulance to the hospital. 

So, I wouldn’t.  But this isn’t my decision.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This would bother me but I wouldn’t call off my engagement over it. I agree with Brielle, this can’t be the first time something like this has happened if you are thinking you don’t want to marry him over it?

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