(Closed) Would you still want to be invited?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think she would be just as touched at being invited as you would if she did come.  I think it would be sweet if you included a personal note to her to just let her know that you often think of her and that even if she can’t come you’ll understand, but that it would be nice to reconnect with her after the wedding.  🙂  I think it’s very thoughtful of you.

Post # 4
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@SpecialSundae: I would attach a little letter to tell her that I love her and how much she means to me. I would sign the letter and leave my phone number for her to keep in touch. Tell her how much you value her now, you may never get the opportunity again. Can you afford to fly her in?

Post # 5
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ItaliaBride: Totally agree. It will make her day and I’m sure she’ll enjoy being thought of.

Post # 6
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s a sweet idea!  Maybe you could include in the note something about not wanting or expecting a gift from her?  That way, worst case scenario, she doesn’t think you’re inviting her to a wedding she may not be able to come to so she’ll send a gift.  I doubt she would, but ya never know, right?  I love the personal note idea, and I think that the fact that you tracked her down will show her how much she means to you.

Post # 8
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think that would be wonderful of you to invite her! Its the thought that counts! =)

I bet she’d love the personal note too! xo

Post # 9
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely invite her and include a personal note letting her know how much she means to you!  I’d be careful about how you word the part about knowing it’s probably not likely that she’ll be able to attend – I know you don’t want her to feel pressured, but you don’t want to make her feel like you don’t really want her there.  You could say something like “I know it is a long distance to travel but if you were at all able, we would love to have you present when we tie the knot.”  

I think she’ll be touched by the invite.

Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say invite her.  If it were me, I would be soooo happy someone felt that way about me after all these years.  But, leave out that “you anticipate it’s unlikely she would attend” part.  I personally, would not feel like someone really truly wanted me there, but maybe that’s just me.  Instead, just say what you just said about  renewing ties, and all the good memories of her you have.  Then she may feel you are being genuine, plus if she doesn’t come, she may just write and still want to  renew ties anyhow. good luck!!

Post # 11
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

Definetley invite her! Very touching. 

Post # 13
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

worded perfectly!

Post # 14
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that’s a really lovely gesture 🙂

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