Post # 1
There has been someone I really wanted to invite to my wedding in Scotland but after my granny’s death I fell out of touch with her. Odd though it sounds, she was my dad’s childhood babysitter but I stayed with her and her husband while I was travelling and she means a lot to me. I decided to try to find her house on Google maps in California to little avail and then thought I may as well try looking her up in the phone directory and there she was! I don’t think she’ll come but I do want to invite her.
Should I put a note in with the invitation saying that I anticipate that it’s unlikely that she will come but if she had plans to be in Scotland (where she’s from originally) that she would be incredibly welcome? If it were you, would you want to be invited? I’m planning to leave out any mention of gift lists or anything like that. I really just want to renew ties as she means a lot to me.
Post # 3
I think she would be just as touched at being invited as you would if she did come. I think it would be sweet if you included a personal note to her to just let her know that you often think of her and that even if she can’t come you’ll understand, but that it would be nice to reconnect with her after the wedding. 🙂 I think it’s very thoughtful of you.
Post # 4
@SpecialSundae: I would attach a little letter to tell her that I love her and how much she means to me. I would sign the letter and leave my phone number for her to keep in touch. Tell her how much you value her now, you may never get the opportunity again. Can you afford to fly her in?
Post # 5
@ItaliaBride: Totally agree. It will make her day and I’m sure she’ll enjoy being thought of.
Post # 6
I think it’s a sweet idea! Maybe you could include in the note something about not wanting or expecting a gift from her? That way, worst case scenario, she doesn’t think you’re inviting her to a wedding she may not be able to come to so she’ll send a gift. I doubt she would, but ya never know, right? I love the personal note idea, and I think that the fact that you tracked her down will show her how much she means to you.
Post # 7
@Soladylike: I can’t. I would love if she could come but she’s not the only person I’m inviting from overseas and others are in much tighter financial straights than she was when I last saw her, so it wouldn’t be fair to them even if I could afford to.
Post # 8
I think that would be wonderful of you to invite her! Its the thought that counts! =)
I bet she’d love the personal note too! xo
Post # 9
Definitely invite her and include a personal note letting her know how much she means to you! I’d be careful about how you word the part about knowing it’s probably not likely that she’ll be able to attend – I know you don’t want her to feel pressured, but you don’t want to make her feel like you don’t really want her there. You could say something like “I know it is a long distance to travel but if you were at all able, we would love to have you present when we tie the knot.”
I think she’ll be touched by the invite.
Post # 10
I say invite her. If it were me, I would be soooo happy someone felt that way about me after all these years. But, leave out that “you anticipate it’s unlikely she would attend” part. I personally, would not feel like someone really truly wanted me there, but maybe that’s just me. Instead, just say what you just said about renewing ties, and all the good memories of her you have. Then she may feel you are being genuine, plus if she doesn’t come, she may just write and still want to renew ties anyhow. good luck!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
Definetley invite her! Very touching.
Post # 12
I wrote her a brief note:
I hope that this finds you well and that life is treating you kindly.
I would be delighted if you were able to come but, if nothing else, I’d love hear from you again.
Fiance and I hope to visit California in 2013, so I will hope I can see you then if not before.
With much love and affection, to you and Darling Husband,
Post # 14
I think that’s a really lovely gesture 🙂