(Closed) Would you swap?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 106
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Helper bee

naturelovebee :  I haven’t read every single post on here, but I don’t see where anyone said that those who purchase a diamond are stupid for spending that much money…what a rude thing for someone to say if they did. However I have seen some extremely judgmental comments saying that those who purchase moissanite instead are only trying show off,  use as a status symbol,  use as a competitive tool, and are posers. How nasty!!  Many are agreeing with those comments more than any other which is just sad. Who knew people would be so offended by a stone. 

Post # 107
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Helper bee

jewels84 :  yes. There are plenty of posts on here where people say because they are an “ethical person” they steer clear of diamonds and also that it is “stupid” or “not financially responsible” to buy diamonds. I agree that saying people are “posers” etc is just plain rude. However, saying you don’t like a moissanite because in your opinion it is not a real gemstone  I think is perfectly ok to say!

HOWEVER, I will totally say this: people with diamonds (including me) shouldn’t really be complaining that much because we are the majority. It’s almost like complaining about “racism against white people” or “reverse racism”, which in my opinion is pretty laughable since white people are the majority and experience far less scrutiny due to the color of their skin than other ethnicities–Not at all the same thing, but the concept of it is somewhat relatable and I think the parallel gets that point across. That being said, I brought up people with moissanites’s negative comments to refute the idea that none of them ever say anything bad about people with diamonds. That is all. 

They are both white stones. They are both REALLY beautiful, and they both last a lifetime. Therefore, we should all be proud of our little sparklies ❤️

 

Post # 109
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

jasc8790 :  perhaps you miss the point of a public forum???? Would you actually scroll through for inspiration or advice if everyone responded with a yes or no ?? I dont think so, obviously this is a sensitive subject for some, perhaps those wishing they had a diamond instead….its not usually vice versa so I really think the honesty shown here was inevitable. Also everyone has to realise this forum is world wide, I am in Australia and I dont even think moissy’s are a “thing” yet….they seem to be a hit in the U.S…I had never seen nor heard of them before the bee…..and have not seen them available in any of our jewellers…….perhaps that contributes to my mind set…..if erings were commonly either / or ….who knows!!!!!! I love my diamond, I am also  in the minority who have a princess cut halo….very unpopular on the bee but I am comfortable and confident enough to never take anything personally on here, I will admit though that those who insist “solitaires are timeless and classic” really irk me…… erings are timeless and classic….no single style is…….no single stone is……

Post # 110
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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Post # 111
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Post # 112
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Helper bee

Not engaged yet so I can’t actually answer, but I appreciate that many wouldn’t change for any stone at all because they have sentimental feeling towards the stone they have.

I agree with you OP, I think that the present quality of Moissy makes it pretty indistinguishable from diamond and I really don’t get the big deal about diamonds, so for me, Moissy would do just fine. I guess I see them as equivalent so I’d just as soon save the price difference. To each their own though, I know many who would not agree and would fall on one side or the other.

Post # 113
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Blushing bee

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Post # 114
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I have to agree that while moissanites are “naturally occurring”, they were only known in nature to be miniscule and green. Surprisingly, that is not how moissanite stones look now. They were intentionally manipulated to be as colorless as possible, thereby simulating a diamond much more closely than they would have in their original state. The “space rock” that people talk about would be small and green, not 2-3 ct, clear, and cut so as to mimic a diamond as closely as possible.

Post # 115
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Busy bee

jannigirl :  I do not think it is that people do not approve, that is totally fine. I think it has more to do with the snobby statements. Like saying people who go with anything other than a natural stone is a poser, insecure or liar. I have even seen someone say it is the poor mans diamond as well.

When ignorant snarky offensive statements are thrown around, of course people are going to react and say their piece. People do the same exact thing when people say how dumb others are for dropping so much money on a rock, or owning something unethical. So kinda goes both ways.

I just do not understand the reasoning for the nasty comments in general. It is easy to just state your opinion with out looking like a pompous prick. Same goes for anyone making generlizations about diamond owners.

Post # 116
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Post # 117
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978 posts
Busy bee

jannigirl :  Not everyone cares. Like me for example, I do not feel the need to spend 15k on a rock. I do not even have 15k to spend on anything at the moment lmao but if I did, the last thing it would be is on a diamond and that’s ok.

I have 3 kids so that money in my eyes would be used on more important things for what is best for my situation. I have a moissanite because it was budget friendly. I could not afford a quality diamond in the size I wanted on my chubby finger. I hate the way small stones look on my hand.

I am not embarrassed to state why I chose to go for an alternative. It is what it is. Everyone knows I have a moissanite on the bee and in real life. 

Everyone’s situation is different. Everyone has different priorities and luxuries. Why is that so hard to understand? I just wish people would not be so judgemental and nasty, that is so silly to me. It’s just a fucking thing.

That is what I don’t understand. I guess I am just not a materialistic person and care enough about what kind of rock I wear. All I cared about is that it sparkled and would last, and that’s what I got. 

 

Post # 118
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Helper bee

luey12986 :  Amen to all of that! However, I bet many still won’t get it(or won’t allow themselves to). The same thing has been said about hundred different ways and yet here we still are…

Post # 119
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

luey12986 :  [content moderated for personal attack]

I’m older and think I probably just want “better” things at this point in my life.  Not perfect or extravagant, but better. Truth is, that we as humans, value rare & expensive luxury items (that kind of what makes them luxury). It is what it is.

 

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