(Closed) Would you take the child?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you bring up your grandchild so your child could better themselves in a career?
    Yes I would take the child and bring them up to help my child better themselves : (57 votes)
    39 %
    NO : (47 votes)
    32 %
    Maybe - but....... explain : (41 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    1057 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Would depend on so many things….how old I am, if I’m working full time, my responsiblities outside of work, how long it would be, etc.  Can’t really say without knowing those things.

    Post # 4
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it would probably be the best situation for the child (unless there is a father in the picture in which case I would think he would want to take care of him).

    ETA: In the situation where the mother is alive I would hope/assume that she would be taking care of the child financially while I was raising him. In the situation where she was deceased I would hope that there is some sort of system where the military provides financial assistance.

    I would never let the child go into foster care, but if there was another relative who was more eager to raise the child than I would probably be ok with that.

    Post # 5
    6830 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You bet I would,  I rather see that child with me as a family member than go into a foster home etc…

    Post # 6
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Maybe i have a different opinion, but if she is old enough to have a child she is old enough to make sacrifices to raise that kid. She can find another career path that doesnt take her away from the kid for months on end. I dont see why the grandparent has to take responsibilty while the actual parent goes away, even if it is for the army. I’d personally be a big no. 

    But If something ever happened of course i would be willing to take the child in. 

    Post # 7
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes, if I were in a position to be able to take care of the child. (Like not working a job that required lots of travel, etc.)

    Post # 8
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes I would depending on my age. My sister asked Fiance and I to be the ones to raise my nephew should anything happen to them. We said yes in a heart beat!

    Post # 9
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would have said no, but in that situation, if she wants to join the army then yes, I would raise my grandchild. Your question actually made me wonder what happens to all kids of single parents in the military out there…

    Post # 10
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    it seems extremely irresponsible of the mother to leave her child to join the military (I would say otherwise if she had joined the military first and had the child while on inactive duty or whatever).  I wouldn’t take the child unless there were no other avenues (other than foster care) :1

    Of course, I don’t like kids in the first place so I can’t imagine even having grandkids…

    Post # 11
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If it was a necessity that I take the child, I would.


    If it was a convenience, I would encourage my daughter to look at other career options.

    Post # 12
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    If this would be the best opportunity for her, then yes I would raise my grandchild while they were away. Without a doubt.

    Post # 14
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    if she is going to do this regarless of her child then i would have the child be with me, i don’t however agree with her actions. if she was in the army before the child came along i think this would be a different story. i feel really sorry for this child if i am honest, i’m not saying a mother should not have a career, but the army… come on that got to be a case of one of the other for a single parent.

    Post # 15
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Well, I would first off try and convince my kid that the armed forces are not the right path (i’d be devastated if my kid served in them for many, many reasons) and try to find a way to help their career in a more direct way.

    Barring that, i’d have to see whether I was in a financial and time position to take care of a child.

    It’s a tough and very personal choice!

    Post # 16
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Should anything ever happen to my brother and SIL, MR. LK and I have already agreed to raise our nephew and have signed all of the paperwork. When they asked us it took us about 2.2 seconds to say “yes”. Of course we would. He’s family, and family takes care of its own. Even though we don’t intend to have any bebes, it was a no-brainer for us. And if bro and SIL both had to be out of town for work at the same time, we’d be happy to look out for the little guy.

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