(Closed) Would you take this as a compliment or an insult?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d probably take it as an insult and possibly an honest assessment of how people view my clothing choices and whether or not they are appropriate, regardless of how good I might think I look.

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Probably not meant as a compliment, but if you’re not insulted, don’t worry about it. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Although I will say many strippers have enviable bodies, this comment was not meant as a compliment. I am shocked someone would write that on FB…ugh!!!! 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@KatyElle:    I agree 100%.  

Being called a stripper is NEVER a good thing.  It doesn’t mean you’re attractive or sexy, it means that people are perceiving you as someone who is rather loose on the morals front based on the way you have dressed.   Obviously without seeing the picture I am in no way saying that about you, I am just saying that when someone refers to someone as a stripper, that is generally the perception.  

If I ever heard that said about myself, I would take a long hard look at what I’m wearing and why I would attract that kind of statement.  I understand wanting to flaunt what you’ve got – I’m 32 and I am in better shape and look as good, if not better, than I did at 22.  That doesn’t mean I dress like I’m 22 anymore though.   

Again, I’m not saying you do this, I’m just saying that if a comment like this was made about me, it would cause me to do a bit of self-reflection.  

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I think it was FOR SURE meant to be an insulting comment. Just depends on your sense of humor and how you feel about it lol. I would probably be mad but I would laugh it off of course.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Angelz_love:  I haven’t seen the picture so I have no idea if the comment was warranted. You certainly don’t have to justify your clothing choices to me, but if people tell you you dress particularly sexy often, maybe that’s just something to think about, I don’t know. Wear what you feel good in if you don’t mind the comments. Your life, your business. You asked what we think, so I’m telling you 🙂

Post # 39
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Busy bee

Insult.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If the dress was reasonably conservative, then it was probably a comment on your figure. In which case, the comment was probably on how hot you are. There are some well-intentioned dum-dums out there who think that telling a woman she looks like she could do porn is a compliment of the first order.

I’d be sort of annoyed, but not straight up insulted. Like, I get that whoever left the comment thought they were being cheeky and adorable. So their intentions were probably good and I wouldn’t fly off the handle about it, but I mean, come on. Stripper? Really? There are better ways to compliment a woman’s physique.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

When you get a chance, post the pic? 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

@zippylef:  thats my answer too 🙂 

And I also would love to see the picture ! I love your attitude 🙂 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is soooooo rude! BUT I have a feeling, for some reason they are jealous or something? Like who says that? Im glad your Fh stuck up for you. Dont let it bother you!!!! He is all that matters!

Post # 44
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Worker bee

I definitely wouldn’t let it bother me. I am rather large in the chest and have had all sorts of strange comments even while dressed VERY modestly and appropriately. Believe me, I essentially have heard everything under the sun and have got the stipper comment before myself. I just laughed it off. My fiance loves me how I am and supports me no matter what. Ironically, I actually seem to get *less* negative comments when wearing a deeper V or more cleavage revealing dress than a higher cut dress (that shows less cleavage). GO FIGURE. I think it might be because my chest is SO large it exaggerates the effect if the dress/blouse is high cut. Just DON’T let it bother you. You are beautiful the way you are! Ignore it.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Insult. It is never OK to be compared to a stripper lol. Especially when you don’t know his extended family well! Rude!

Post the dress when you get the chance!

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Insult.

There is no positiveway I could look at that comment at all, sorry.

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