(Closed) Would you tell his wife?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you email the wife?
    Heck Yes : (143 votes)
    72 %
    No. That's just mean. She'll figure it out. : (56 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    How exactly do you know he is only interested in sex? unless he explicitly said that’s what he is after,  you shouldn’t go to his wife, because you might actually be wrong.,

    Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Yes you need to tell her. I’d be devastated but at the same time thankful for someone telling me. She deserves better than staying with a guy like him. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee

    If she wants to know, she probably wouldn’t want to know from you. Is there a mutual friend who you could tell instead?

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    All you can do is give her the info. Sometimes it’s just planting a seed. I don’t see it as mean to give her the facts. I wouldn’t elaborate or fill in the blanks because you can’t prove what he wants now, unless there’s more to the texts. 

    Post # 6
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    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Tell her.

    I can’t believe I am saying that because you will be destroying her life but she deserces to know who she has married.

    Hopefully they don’t have a family yet.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Best case scenario: she believes you. Most likely scenario:  you’re some crazy lady who just wants her husband’s D and she goes off on you.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    sunfl0wergirl:  Yeah but OP and the wife don’t know each other, so who cares if she flips out at her?

    Just send the photos / messages back to her and let her deal with it. I would be devastated if I was her, but I would still want to know.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    daisyb214:  Good heavens just tell the poor woman! No skin off your if she decides to stay with him but at least you’ll have presented the facts.

    Post # 11
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would tell her.

    I replied on that other post that I would tell my friend that I saw her cheating fiance in Vegas, too. But, thinking on it, I wonder if this is safe advice to give. Like what if the guy ends up getting dumped, and comes after you in revenge? He knows your name and where you live, right?

    I think you should at least try to tell his wife anonymously. Even if she doesn’t leave him on the basis of one anonymous email, you’ve planted a seed in her head. Now she’ll be suspicious and probably start snooping. Then maybe she’ll find her own evidence.

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Go through with it then send her the video?  Then she’ll have to believe he would.   Kidding, just send her whatyou have now and let her decode what she wants to do with the info.   Most likely she won’t believe it anyways though. 

    Post # 13
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    9033 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    daisyb214:  You know nothing about their marriage. For all you know they are in open relationship. Stay out of it and block this guy. 

     

    Post # 14
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    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 1993

    No I would not tell her. i would however block him from calling me again. 

    Post # 15
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    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

      Yes, she needs to know she married a class-A jerk!

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