Post # 196
bywater : the men added drama by cheating.
what is wrong with you
Post # 197
keysha : Yes. All the guys who were present know about it, and both of them have admitted that they cheated and slept with the women.
alexandrite : My fiance could go to meet them with me but part of me thinks that it would be easier for them if only I go to meet them.
Post # 198
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
chocco : I know- I was responding to that silly comment about you telling them creating drama, stating that if the men didn’t want drama, they shouldn’t have cheated and told all their friends right after.
Post # 199
keysha : Yeah, I was agreeing with what you said about the two guys starting the drama themselves. They should not have told their friends if they wanted it to remain a secret but they told them.
Post # 201
chocco : In my opinion you should go alone and not with your fiance. It will be horrible for them finding out about their boyfriends’ cheating and the fewer people the better.
Post # 202
I second what the person above said. Go alone and not with your FH.
Post # 203
Please tell us what happens today after you tell her. And what bywater : said is vicim blaming basically. NO its not creating drama to tell the truth, a truth they have not even tried to hide. If you don’t want drama in your life, don’t be an asshole.
Post # 204
What’s with this bizarre need to avoid drama? Are you going to let people be cheated and lied to so that you can avoid some drama? Where is the logic in doing this?
Post # 205
Best of luck. This cannot be easy for you.
Post # 206
Good luck Bee. I know it’s hard, but doing the right thing usually is.
Hopefully they appreciate your position in this and are grateful for the truth.
Post # 207
I am always for that everyone should tell the truth
Post # 208
I would recommend you come to the table with an approach of “I am providing information and I have no judgement about what you choose to do with it. I won’t talk about the subject again unless you want to and I won’t talk about it with anyone else”.
You want to make sure they feel safe. If there is any indication that you are telling them to break up with their partners they might go on the defense or question your information.
“I need to tell you something. This is really uncomfortable but I respect you too much to keep this to myself. You can ask me any questions you want and no matter what you what to do with this you are still my friend and I’ll have your back”
Post # 209
Hope it went/goes ok with your friend.
Are you meeting both ladies today?
Post # 210
supertrooper0101 : THey may have added drama, but OP is fanning the flames.
The men cheated
The men told her FI
Her Fiance told her
She decided to tell the Girlfriend of the men who told her Fiance.
How is she NOT adding to the drama? She’s a tattletale.