Would you tell or keep quiet?

posted 4 months ago in Beehive
Post # 271
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201 posts
Helper bee

mrsssb :  I’ve looked a couple of times too. Hope it went ok for her. I know I’d find it very difficult to tell an acquaintance such news, so a lot of respect for her for having the courage.

Post # 272
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277 posts
Helper bee

Your fiance’s friend might have already warned the other friend and he might have already taken action to ensure that she doesn’t believe you. Hope not though because she deserves to know the truth too.

Post # 273
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

You and your fiance are straight up homies, OP! You should both be proud of yourselves and each other for the integrity, respect and kindness you’ve shown through this whole situation. 

Post # 274
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Busy bee

What a crazy story. Bravo to both you and your fiance for doing the right thing. I’m sure it is both hard and scary, but go on both of you for sticking together and toughing it out, even though it’s not the easiest!

Post # 275
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I hope your conversation with the fiance went OK yesterday! I wanted to tell you that I’m really proud of you for telling the girls about this. I was cheated on for many years and a few people knew (no one I actually knew) but no one ever told me. It would have saved me years wasted on a  loser if someone would have had the guts to do what you did. It really sucks being the bearer of bad news, but these girls deserved the truth. Kudos to you and your DH!

Post # 278
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Bumble bee

That must have been tough. You and your fiance’s response to this sad situation has been admirable.

Post # 279
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

chocco :  thanks for updating us. Sounds like it went well all things considered. I’m curious. Did you tell either girl that they weren’t the only one cheated on that weekend? Did you mention to either of them about each other? It would give them someone to talk to going through the same thing, but in the other hand it might be better to not tell about the other guy in the group who also cheated to protect the privacy of that other girl? 

Post # 281
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

chocco :  That would be really tough. At least now the ladies can decide if they’re able to live with their partner’s decisions. You (and your guy) were put in a really awful position and I think you did the best with what you had! I’m suyre the ladies appreciated your honesty!

Post # 284
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

maybe these men will think harder next time about the consequences of such terrible, hurtful actions.

Post # 285
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

I actually read something last night:

 

You are free to choose- but you are not free from the consequence of that choice

Post # 286
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201 posts
Helper bee

chocco :  Totally up to you and what you are comfortable with, but I think you should tell these women that they were not the only ones to be cheated on that night. They will have someone to talk and relate to.

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