Would you tell or keep quiet?

posted 2 months ago in Beehive
Post # 332
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277 posts
Helper bee

saturnian :  

 “People expect others to appreciate, even applaud, their honesty but that is not what necessarily happens in real life, and especially not when you interfere in other people’s lives. 

Those guys told OP’s fiance. I doubt anyone wanted others to know through him. The other guys in the circle will most likely think twice before they share anything with him from here on.

I did not get the impression that OP or her fiance were looking for a pat on the back for telling the truth. However, if others have a problem with them telling the truth then, it’s time to look for better friends.

Post # 333
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12292 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

saturnian :  You are still missing the point. OP and her fiance understood the risks and do not care about the fallout. Potentially saving those women from lives with cheaters was far more important to them than a friendship with anyone who would cut off a relationship because they did. 

For them, that included not only the cheaters but anyone who takes their side as well. Friendships are not cast in stone. I know it seems like an outdated notion in this climate but to people like the OP and her fiance character counts. They would rather make new friends than maintain relationships with people with values that don’t match their own.  In their place so would I. 

Post # 334
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201 posts
Helper bee

saturnian :  “People expect others to appreciate, even applaud, their honesty “

 

That does not seem to be true here, so what’s your point?

Post # 335
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775 posts
Busy bee

 

This is very critical. So they should know.

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