Would you tell or keep quiet?

posted 1 month ago in Beehive
Post # 61
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Buzzing bee

franklymydearidont :  oh I completely agree with you on that front! I’d be side-eyeing the fuck out of my fiancé if he were friends with guys who cheated and lied! I just don’t think she should force the decision by being the one to blatantly say “my fiancé told me that your fiancé told him that he cheated”. that’s the ONLY reason I think she should do it anonymously!

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

chiara :  I don’t disagree with you. But honestly, that’s his choice, not hers. 

Post # 63
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Blushing bee

elodie2019 :  “I have two friends who have significant others who have cheated on them. One said, it was none of her business what he did and was angry people were talking about them and their relationship. She said it didn’t matter if he had and completely cut out the friend who told her. She said he was her family and she would always side with him no matter what. They loved them and their life together and we’re not going to uproot their lives. “

How unfortunate that both your friends have such little self respect. Doesn’t mean OP shouldn’t do the right thing and give these women the choice to decide whether they want to stay or not.

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Your fiance and you both agree the women should know. Telling them is the right thing to do, especially because this concerns their health. I would find a way to do it anonymously, so it won’t be traced back to you two.

Post # 66
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Blushing bee

elodie2019 :  I disagree that as adults we have to put up with or stick up for our friends when they’re being bad, skeezy people. Friendship for me is conditional on being a good person. A true friend will hold you accountable for your actions… If they drop OP’s fiance it’ll be their loss, not his. He has tried and they’re persisting in being awful.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

alexandrite : “ How unfortunate that both your friends have such little self respect.”

I’m not saying I agree with their decision to stay as it isn’t my decision to agree or disagree with. At the end of the day it’s their life and relationship and I’m not going to judge them or say they don’t respect themselves. They are more forgiving than I could be and love their significant others. Lots of couples face infidelity and staying with your partner doesn’t mean you don’t respect yourself.

I think the men in these situations should be honest so their significant others can make an informed choice but I don’t think it’s your place to inform them. 

 

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If Op’s Fiancé wants to drop them as friends because they won’t do the right thing and their friendship is conditional on them making good decisions that’s up to him. Him holding his friends accountable is him telling them if they don’t tell he will have to end their friendship. That’s holding your friend accountable for their actions.gryffinfoot :  

Post # 70
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Busy bee

Do you think men only cheat on women who “aren’t a good fit for them”?.

Maybe I’m just a jaded bitch, but in my experience a man can look you right in the eyes and tell you with tears in their eyes that you’re perfect and they want you forever and go have sex meaningless sex with someone else that same night.

 

mrsssb :  

Post # 71
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Busy bee

mrsssb :  To be more clear: please don’t be naive enough to think that just because a relationship is “perfect” and the couple is a “good fit”, doesn’t mean another person won’t cheat. 

Post # 74
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Worker bee

Not your business and you should stay out of it, but if you want to take a stand, stop being friends with these men.

Post # 75
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Helper bee

Tell them. At least tell the girl you are friends with. Your fiance should not have told you if he didn’t want you to tell these women.

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