Post # 1
Last weekend, Darling Husband, his best friend D who is visiting from England, and I all went to visit DH’s parents in the LA area on our way back from Vegas. While there, I met his sister C for the first time and we hit it off. (In case it matters, Darling Husband and I are both 23, D is 22, and C is 25.) C has a boyfriend whom she has been with for 8 years and has a 6-year-old son with. She says she’ll marry her boyfriend when she’s done with school.
One night, C, D, Darling Husband, and I all went out drinking together. We went to one bar and everything was normal. Then we went to a club, and by the time we’d been there for a little while, we were all pretty drunk. C and I had been dancing together for a while while D and Darling Husband hung out. Then C and D started dancing together, which was pretty normal, until he started putting his hands on her hips and butt. They were hugging for long periods of time, holding hands (fingers interlaced) and were generally very close. I never saw them kiss on the lips or anything, but the way they were acting still made me uncomfortable considering she has a boyfriend.
On the Uber ride home, she was lying in his lap, they were holding hands again, and he was kissing her head or shoulder or something. I know they were drunk, but typically you still know what you’re doing when you’re drunk (or at least I do). I was super drunk that night and still all I could think about was my husband. And I know I’d be PISSED if my husband acted with another girl the way C and D acted together that night, and if he did it when I wasn’t there, I’d want someone to tell me. If you were in my position would you tell C’s boyfriend?
Post # 2
mrsc6815: C is your husband’s sister? In this case, no. Definitely not. I assume your husband also witnessed it and he should handle his family.
Post # 4
Not your place, especially since that was the first time you met C. If anything, bring it up with your husband and he can speak to his sister about it if he feels the need.
Post # 5
You just met C and haven’t met her boyfriend. No, I would not go out of my way to say anything. If I was asked about it, then I would be honest. You really don’t know her or what her relationship is like with her boyfriend. I would be cautious about going out drinking with her again.
Post # 6
Not your circus, not your monkeys.
Post # 8
mrsc6815: you just met this lady for the first time and you want to tattle on her to her boyfriend…about something that you only vaguely remember/witnessed (you yourself were drunk and your description of events does not have a lot of detail)? Nope nope nope. This is so far out of your lane, I can’t even…
Post # 9
mrsc6815: Which do you think is likely to turn out better for everyone involved:
- You somehow find out how to contact the boyfriend of this woman you only just met, and reach out to tell him you’re his girlfriend’s brother’s wife, and that you saw her dancing with your husband’s best friend who may or may not have kissed her head or shoulder or something at some point during the night.
- You don’t do that stuff in #1.
Post # 11
Do not pass go, girl. This is a disaster waiting to happen.
Post # 13
mrsc6815: It’s not your place to say anything. Keep your eyes on your own paper.
Post # 14
No not at all, this has nothing to do with you, and you should behave exactly as you did before the evening out with all parties involved.
Post # 15
The heart wants what the heart wants, maybe meeting that guy put doubts into her head about where her life/relationship is headed. I mean C has been with her bf for 8 years and they have a 6yr old son but they’re not married- maybe their relationship isn’t as perfect as you were lead to believe and they’re not married yet for a reason. Maybe she doesn’t really love him but she’s determined to stay with him for the kid. Or maybe they have an open relationship, Vegas is pretty wild so maybe they’ve decided to have open boundaries.
Your Darling Husband saw how his sister was acting and didn’t have anything to say about it? then let it go.