(Closed) Would you tell Wife if Husband is Cheating?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you somehow tell a person if their spouse is cheating?
    Yes : (79 votes)
    54 %
    No : (58 votes)
    39 %
    Other (Please explain) : (10 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This is a tough call. Honeslty, stuff like this pisses me off…mostly the girl. I would send an anonymous letter, and I would hope someone would do the same to me !

    Post # 4
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    i would want to know. i get that it’s none of your business and all but from me if i was her, i would want someone-anyone to tell me.

    if you do, you need to make sure you arent putting your job on the line at all.

    It’s hard and most people will probably tell you to stay out of it. But i would want to know if it was me is all i’m saying.

    Post # 5
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Honestly, I would stay out of it.  I’m usually pro-tell but these are coworkers more than friends.  Professional relationships don’t really operate on the same level as solid friedships.

    Post # 6
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    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would tell her too because I would want to know.

    Post # 7
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldn’t tell. My point of view is that it’s not my business and I wouldn’t want to get involved in such a messy personal situation. Also, people have a tendancy to “shoot the messenger” in these kinds of situations

    Post # 8
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you aren’t personally friends with the wife, I feel like it isn’t your place. How would you even contact her?

    Post # 9
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would probably try to tell her in an anonymous way. I would just feel way too guilty not telling, but I also wouldn’t want it to be a shoot the messenger situation, nor would I want there to be drama at work. I would hope someone would do the same for me.

    Post # 10
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    2950 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would tell her only if I had absolute solid proof. Emails, pics, etc… If she was someone I knew closely I would do it in person. If not; Id probably do it anonymously but say its someone from work.

    what a horrible situation to be in 🙁

    Post # 11
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    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would want to know.  And seriously, “he’s going to leave his wife for me” is very naive when he’s still doing things like grocery shopping together with his wife.  Does the “girlfriend” understand that?

    I’m sorry you’re in such a rough spot.  But to answer your question, yes, I would absolutely want to know…especially since I’d probably be having unprotected sex with him.  I would want to get tested ASAP.

    Post # 12
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    This is a tough situation.  Yes, I would want to know.  BUT here’s the problem with your situation:  You don’t know the wife that well, so if you were to tell her, it’s hard to know whether she’d believe you.  She could very well accuse you of making things up (and she could possibly assume that you’re trying to break them up) – crazy, I know, but some women are like that.  Secondly, this would put a lot of strain within your work environment if the cheaters discover that you spilled their “secret”.  I absolutely agree that what they are doing is completely wrong – especially when there are children involved.  But more often than not, you have to look out for yourself, so I might wait a bit.  Things often come out anyway.

    Post # 13
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    1561 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You don’t know anything about this guy’s personal life or his relationship with his wife, beyond seeing them at a grocery store.  I really urge you to stay out of it.

    Post # 14
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    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This really threw me for a loop.  I would want to know 100%.  But I don’t know if I would tell someone, I know that is so hypocritcal even typing it makes me cringe.  If it was someone I knew really well I would tell them (ex: my sister or super close friend) but just an acquaintance most likely not.  It’s just too messy to get involved and a lot of women won’t believe you and might go crazy on you.

    Post # 15
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    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I agree with sending something anonymously if you can.. because they are coworkers rather than close friends, it’s kind of a “mind your own business” situation.. but if I were the wife (or the girl’s husband/boyfriend) I would rather know than not know.

    Post # 16
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    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s none of your business so no, you don’t do anything.

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