- 12 years ago
how about calling her a flower attendant? 🙂
how about calling her a flower attendant? 🙂
At 26 she’s brides"maid", not flower"girl". JMO though. If you want to include her but not as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, have her man the guest book/photo booth/wish tree, etc. In the program she could be listed as that attendant.
Or – prior to guests’ arrival she could line the aisle with rose petals. As guests arrive she could hand out rose petal-filled cones (soooo easy to make and are for your guests to toss on you after the ceremony) and programs? She could then be entitled the "Ceremony Attendant"?
What if she and your bridesmaids all threw petals as they walked down the aisle?
I don’t think there’s anything "wrong" with it. In fact, I think it’s a great and clever idea! Your wedding should be what you want, but I do agree that in the program she should be called something other than "flower girl". That title has connotations of a little girl walking down the aisle. Angel had great suggestions!
I think she should just be a bridesmaid. So your numbers are uneven? So what! There are creative ways to make your pictures look balanced. And remember, guys have two arms – one of your groomsmen can just walk down the aisle with two ladies on his arms instead of one. What guy wouldn’t want a hot lady on each arm?
On a side note, my fiance played trombone in a wedding last summer where the bride had a groomsmaid. He wore a tux like everyone else on the guys side, but he stood on the bride’s side. The funny part was that the bride had him hold a bouquet too. He didn’t look thrilled to be holding a bouquet, but I suppose it made him fit in with the other bridesmaids. 😉
This kind of reminds me of my cousin’s wedding a few years ago… A (somewhat older, I guess), friend of hers was actually the one who set her up with her husband on a first date. After they were dating a while, they joked that she would be thier flower girl if they got married… and she was! I forget the term they used as her title- it wasn’t "flower girl," unless it was in another language… it was very cute though, and everybody thought it was sweet, I think.
In the end, it is your wedding, and you can choose to do whatever you would like. My only advice would be to make sure that your friend is ok with being a flower girl and not a bridesmaid… if she’s ok with it, and you are too, then go for it! Good luck with whatever you decide!
im in agreement with most posts that u should just make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man if u want her to actually walk in the wedding. if not, then have her do some other tasks, i.e. guestbook, hand out programs, etc. but making her a flower girl is kind of demeaning.
Did I get the wrong impression? I thought the "we" in the post was the bride and the FG/BM. If it is, then yeah…I stick to my original answer, but if it isn’t, then she should definitely have a say.
Let us know what happens!
I I was in a wedding and there was an older flowergirl and ring bearer! It was so unique and the "flower girl" had so much fun! Everyone loved it and thought it was a cool idea… be unique and do whatever you want!!! It’s your wedding day! Here is a picture of all of the bridesmaids, and the flower girl from the wedding! She was 16.
Thanks so much for all of the advice. I had another chat with the potential flower girl and made it clear that I wanted her to participate and it was up to her if she wanted to stick with the flower girl plan, adopt a more traditional bridesmaid role, or we could make up a new job for her. As it turns out she’s decided to stick with the flower girl route but in a dress that will match the bridesmaids so the only real difference if that she’ll have an excuse to throw things out of a basket. All of the bridemaids are wearing different dresses in the same fabric anyhow so I’m sure most people won’t notice any difference. I’ll let you know how it goes in July…
That’s awesome…I definitely want to see pictures!
Well it is your wedding, I wouldn’t but go for it. You could make her a fourth bridesmaid though!
I love it – and I really loved another poster’s title of flower diva
I have surprisingly had A LOT of my GFs ask to be my flower girl because they never got to be one!
GO FOR IT!
Go for it!! I’m doing that too! Except they will be my four best girl friends from high school and instead of walking down the aisle sprinkling petals, they will each be holding flowers for my bouqet and when I walk past them down the aisle, they will hand me the flowers. I wanted to include them, but Fiance and I would have a HUGE wedding party if we did, and I think I had seen this idea on http://2000dollarwedding.com/ and really loved it!
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