(Closed) Would you think this is weird?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you think it was weird if it was your wedding?
    Yes : (25 votes)
    57 %
    No : (19 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think it would be best to pass. That is kind of weird if you didn’t get your own invite and you work with her.

    Post # 4
    1537 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    The Bride and Groom can’t really be upset when people bring plus ones that they don’t know very well or who weren’t specifically invited. The whole point of choosing whether or not to allow plus ones is to make a decision of how open you want your wedding to be. If they didn’t want uninvited guests to come they shouldn’t have added plus ones. I think going would be perfectly fine. The only time I would think it would be inappropriate is if the two of you have ever had a falling out or don’t get along, which would mean she deliberately didn’t invite you. This doesn’t sound like the case so I am sure it is fine 🙂

    Post # 5
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was invited to a good friend and coworker’s wedding, and I bought another of our coworkers (a girl) as my date. The bride gave me a guest with the invitation, and I talked to the bride about it first… she was totally fine with it and we had a great time!

    Post # 6
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If your a plus one I dont think it matters who it is.. They gave a plus one and you are filling that slot. Go and enjoy yourself.

    Post # 7
    5 posts
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think it’s perfectly fine.  They couple would most likely prefer having you celebrate with them instead of some stranger they had never met before be the +1. 

    Post # 8
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I wouldn’t think it was weird. You are her guess lol. It does not seem like you are crashing either! 

    Post # 9
    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would ask A to run it by B first.  I actually have a friend I couldn’t invite, because we kept our guest list to a certain number, and I would have had to invite him with his steady girlfriend, so that’s two more people.  However, one of my other friends broke up with her partner, and she mentioned possibly bringing the original friend as her plus one.  I was totally happy with the idea – then I get to have two friends with no random dates, for the same cost as one couple and excluding another.  Unless you don’t get along with B or you think she didn’t invite your intentionally instead of just because you’re not close, I wouldn’t think it’s an issue at all.  I would have A mention it though, just to avoid possible drama.

    Post # 10
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s completely fine.  I’ve seen it done before and, if anything, I’d prefer it because then I’d have a friendly face in the crowd versus a stranger.  If it’s a huge deal, have A talk to B and make sure that it isn’t an issue.

    Post # 11
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I invited my boss to my wedding, but as I worked with a lot of people, I just wasn’t able to invite everyone. My boss RSVP-ed, but her husband couldn’t go so she took a coworker. I was surprised to see her, and hugged her and said hello. My boss didn’t know anyone else there, so I’m glad she wasn’t alone. And, besides, I actually knew her date, so that’s better than bringing a random friend as her +1. Honestly though, on my big day, she being there was the least of my concerns.

    Post # 12
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My mom has taken me as her plus-one before to her students’ weddings.  I make a rather more enthusiastic guest than my dad, so she usually takes me.  I say, if the bride gave her a plus one, then the bride doesn’t care who she brings.  So it is your friend’s choice who her “date” is.  If that date happens to be you, then who cares?

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