Post # 1
I know for a fact that I will not be changing my last name to my fiance’s once we are married. I am most likely going to hypenate my name if anything. My father died when I was younger and I want to make sure my name stays in our family…plus I like my name and don’t think I should have to change it just because I get married (not trying to start anything, it’s just my opinion.)
Our event planner sent over a questionaire and one of the questions was “How do you want to be introduced?” If you were a guest at our wedding would you think it was weird if we were introduced as Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Jones-Smith?
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
@Meagan Lindsay: Yes. I think for the wedding you should just let the introduction go as Mr and Mrs Smith or whatever. You’re hyphenated name doesn’t need to be included.
Post # 4
@Missmichigan- Fair enough I respect your opinion…do you mind my asking why though? Just curious:)
Post # 5
i don’t think that’s weird at all! it might be weird if you didn’t include his name at all in the intro, because then it would be like Mrs. Yourself, haha, but the hyphenation is perfectly fine to me.
Post # 6
@Meagan Lindsay: I don’t think it’s strange at all. It’s your first “official” (well, public) introduction as a married couple, you should definitely have the names right!
Post # 7
@Meagan Lindsay: I just think it’s the wedding day. Its about you guys joining your life together. I understand if you want to keep your maiden name in the long run but I think for the day of your wedding you should have the intro as traditional. It might throw people off. Does his family know you feel this way?
Post # 8
Your legal married name will be “your last name – your husbands last name” so yes, I think your legal name should be announced, its your name afterall!
I will say though after you are married most ppl will still call your Mrs. “his last name only” and leave off the hypen. I don’t know why people get weird around the hypens :/
Post # 9
I think if you plan on hyphenating your name you should be announced that way so people know what you decided to do.
Post # 10
If that’s going to be your name, why would they introduce you as anything else?
Post # 11
Since it’s an announcement, I think Mr. & Mrs. Smith just flows better. If it was written down somewhere, I would separate it like you have it typed out above.
Post # 12
I think for the wedding I would just be introduced as John and Jane Smith.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t think it’s strange. I would even recommend doing it that way at the wedding, because if they announce you as Mrs. Smith, that’s how I would refer to you in the future unless you corrected me. If you want to skip last names altogether, you could just have them announce your first names.
Post # 14
Not at all! I would definitely think it was weird if a couple was announced by something that was not actually their names though (i.e. announcing you as John and Jane Smith when your name is actually Jane Jones or Jane Jones-Smith).
Post # 15
@MissMichigan- I think they know that I am planning on doing that, people have actually mentioned it to me at family gatherings. However, his mom did address my christmas gift as “The Future Mrs. John Smith” which to be frank kinda pissed me off. I guess I don’t understand why she should have a problem with it…it is my name afterall…
Post # 16
I think it sounds a little strange, but like the other pp’s have said that is your name and that is how you will want to be addressed in the future so it makes sence to be addressed that way at the wedding and “introducing” your new name!
What if your Fiance hyphenated his last name too?