(Closed) Would you trust your family and friends to keep your pregnancy OFF Facebook?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have had to delete two little things, and have suceeded in keepin it of fb and I,m almost 20 weeks. While it could be fun to announce online, I,m kind of the fence…so prefer not to. So far so good!

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m not really active on Facebook which I think helps, but honestly no one has said anything on it yet and people have known for about a month now. I think it all depends on how much you yourself are on social media sites how much people expect to be able to post on them. Hopefully people will take the cue from you on when/how much they should post.

Post # 18
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11519 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

TogetherThroughLife:  My friend disabled her wall so no one could post on it.  I think eventually as word gets around you will get facebook congrats but there’s not much you can do to avoid it (other than disabling your wall). 

Post # 19
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I disabled the ability to post on my wall to minimize the chance for spills.

Post # 20
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165 posts
Blushing bee

I’m worried about this myself.  The main reason I don’t want to tell my family (especially my mom) about the pregnancy until at least 12 weeks is because I know she’s not going to be able to restrain herself from blabbing on Facebook.  She’s like a teenager with Facebook–EVERYTHING gets posted on there, no matter how personal.  She even posted pics of the wedding dresses I tried on for our wedding.  Had to ask her to take those down.  So I’m pretty sure I’ll have to announce on Facebook myself, because otherwise everyone on there will find out from her and I don’t want that.  Thankfully, DH’s parents don’t even have FB.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TogetherThroughLife:  nope! Every single one of my expecting friends who shared the news got “outed” on FB by well-meaning, excited family members and best friends. 🙂

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I put a few thinngs on.  But we told our parents, siblings, and closest friends really early and no one posted anything.  I didn’t have to ask them not to.  I’m not sure what they would have done if I avoided the whole thing, I think maybe only his mother would have wanted to say something.  She would have listened if we told her not too.  I think there is nothing wrong with once announcement and then nothing else.  I think I only posted 4-5 things about pregnancy the whole time.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Darling Husband and I decided that we didn’t want to post anything about the pregnancy on facebook so we explained to family and friends and said we would do e-mail updates instead (we live overseas away from our family and friends). They’ve all been really understanding and anything that’s been posted has been posted in private or pmed. That being said, if anyone had posted anything about it I wouldn’t have deleted it, we’ve just decided as a couple that we have no interest in sharing this news via/with social media. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

TogetherThroughLife:  I’m definitely a FB poster (we announced our pregnancy on FB, but I keep my bump photos in a private album I have shared with my family), but I really applaud that you would like to keep your (future) pregnancy off of FB.  I think it makes it so much more special for you and your Darling Husband, and your immediate family.  So really, good for you!! 🙂

Post # 25
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2449 posts
Buzzing bee

TogetherThroughLife:  Just tell your Facebook-obsessed friends that you want to keep this off of Facebok. Simple and easy. 😉

Post # 26
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7310 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

My Mother posts everything on FB. Every.Thing. She cannot be trusted to keep a darn thing confidential.

Post # 27
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1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not pregnant yet but we are starting TTC soon ….I know my mom and sister over share on FB but, neither my Darling Husband or myself are on FB anymore. So if they do post, I won’t know about it. Darling Husband and I plan not to tell anyone until after 12 weeks so after that point, they can post all they want. It won’t really affect me.

We are both on instagram but we do not plan on making an “announcement”.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mine did and we didn’t even have to tell them to. We dont post much (at all) on our own FB so they followed our lead. That didn’t stop them from sharing the good news with everyone else in person though. 

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper

TogetherThroughLife:  I’m more of the prolific poster on facebook than my husband, but we mangaged to succcessfully keep our pregnancy out of the limelight until I was nearly 5 months pregnant.  We didn’t offer up information but we weren’t lying if anyone confronted us . For example one of his co-workers asked when I was about 17 weeks pregnant if I was pregnant because I was just too “fat” looking to be actually fat.  We publically announced that I was pregnant when I was 18 weeks.  My family knew when I was in the second trimester and obviously our parents knew when I found out (well his mother didn’t know until i was 8 weeks along).  We did announce the gender after that (20 weeks).

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

We aren’t TTC yet, but I don’t want to post any sort of announcement when we eventually are at that point. I am currently being bombarded by posts of people announcing pregnancies online at four weeks before they have even heard a heart beat or called their grandma. It’s kind of sad. I’ve also had one friend from high school who had to subsequently post about her miscarriage. 

We definitely won’t be doing any kind of picture or whatever to announce. I probably won’t take pictures of ultrasounds for FB either. We might casually put it out there later in the pregnancy because I do think we will share some pictures of the baby, so I don’t want it to be like a baby randomly appeared LOL. I knew this girl who never once mentioned being pregnant on FB, and then one day was like, “my baby won’t stop crying. what do I do!?” Everyone was like, “WHAT!?”

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