TogetherThroughLife: I wouldn’t be worried about someone else “announcing” your pregnancy- but here’s the thing with today’s technology and/or social media– if you didn’t have a FB account- and someone else had a wall convo with another mutual friend that happened to drop news of your pregnancy, you’d either A) never hear about it or B) have friend B call and say “congrats!” and then they might share they heard from friend A. They might not even nother to say “oh, yeah, we were talking on FB”- she might just share the source of info.
You don’t have to post anything about your pregnancy. But in all honesty, unless you have a legal agreement, you cannot 100% guarantee that other people might not say something that indicates you are pregnant.
For example: I am a follower of one of my friend’s fitness groups. She was sharing earlier today the calorie counts of Halloween candy, and what you’d have to do to get rid of what you just ate (50 burpees, etc….). I made a comment that I didn’t want to SEE how bad the candy actually is- playfully– and she commented back “Well, since you’re eating for 2, you can cut those in half!”
Now we do have a few mutual friends in the group. My pregnancy is already known by these people. But my point is- if it wasn’t– the beans just got spilled.
Now to be fair, when we shared the news, we never asked that anyone keep it under wraps. That said- that’s the only comment anyone has made (that I am aware of) about my pregnancy.
The most you can do- if it’s seriously that important to you- if notify people- the people you choose to share the news with– that you really prefer to keep it off of social media. But again– if they tell someone else in person, and forget to mention you want it mum– then there’s a chance it will be mentioned.
No matter how much anyone doesn’t want to hear this – it’s almost impossible to guarantee that your information- such as a pregnancy (which many people view as happy, newsworthy, share-y)– will stay off.
I know you said that if someone posted a pic, you wouldn’t ask them to take it down. But someone might ask- what’s the difference between a pic of you pregnant, or a congrats on your wall?
But to make you feel better– I have had a handful of distant friends who have chosen to not make an announcement– and I had no idea they were pregnant until the posted a pic of the new baby.