Post # 1
I would like to ask everyones opinion on the followin ring issue.
My DH proposed to me with a hybrid heirloom ring, and whilst it wasn’t really my style i’ve grown to love it. When i say hybrid, it was his great grandmothers stone and his mom’s band combined.
So a couple of weekends ago our apt was robbed (booo!!) but TG i was wearing my ring, however it spurred us to finally get all my jewelry appraised and added to our insurance. So we found out that the stone is really bad quality. So my DH felt bad and said we could upgrade if I want (just the stone). Note i wouldnt get rid of the original stone maybe put it on a pendant. After we got married we combined savings / accounts so if we got a new stone it would be coming out of our joint savings (which i don’t mind at all).
My question is i really don’t know whether to do it or not. I would love a better qualty stone HOWEVER we are currently TTC and also saving for a deposit for a house, so it could always be useful elsewhere (the money).
BUT this is probably theonly time we could comfortably do it, i.e. once we have a baby house there probably won’t be any extra funds available! So if we wait i’m probably looking 10+ years before i could do it again.
Post # 3
It sounds like until an appraiser pointed out the specs of the diamond you and your DH were perfectly happy with the diamond and that’s all that matters. If you guys love it (and I love the history of it btw) that’s all that matters.
Post # 4
I would never change my ring however I had say in it. Really if you were fine with it before why upgrade. I say if you hate the setting thats one thing but just the stone I dont think is worth it. I rather buy a really cool stroller for my futur child than a shinny thing on my hand.
Post # 5
As long as the ring looks pretty, I could give two hoots about the “certificate quality”.
Post # 6
I agree with the PPs. Unless you now look at the stone and hate it–then you should upgrade it so it doesn’t annoy you every day. However, you’d probably get over it after a while.
Post # 7
Agree with PP… your ring never bothered you before, why waste money on a new stone just because of what quality it is on a paper. If it was *so* bad that it had always bothered you, then that’d be a different story.
Post # 8
I agree with PPs, if the quality never bothered you before, don’t let it bother you now. I actually have no idea the quality of my diamond (I have an estimate given by the jeweler when he was looking at it, but that’s not official or anything) and I LOVE my ring. I’d love it just the same if I found out it was a poor quality diamond or a great quality diamond. However, I did get to pick it out, so that may change how you think of it since you didn’t get to.
Post # 9
Thanks all! I think i will save the money , i’m sure in a couple of years i will know i’ve made the right decision and there’s plenty of time in the future to upgrade! 🙂
I’ve learned to love my ring, its very unique. I always knew in my heart that the stone quality wasnt that good (but i guess ignornace is bliss!), but it sucks having it confirmed. I guess my issue is my engagement ring is my least favourite ring, I LOVE my wedding bands, and another ring i have much more. I love everything the ring symbolizes but the stone (marquise cut) would never of been my top pick. Also I’ve never wanted to “show it off” and in fact most of the time i don’t wear it. I hope this doesnt make me sound superficial, as i love what the ring represents.
Post # 10
Yeah, I’d say unless the quality really bothers you when you look at it, I’d save the money. As long as you like the way it looks on, what it says on paper doesn’t matter too much 😉
Post # 11
@brklynmmbb: idk if you don’t have a problem with it I woudn’t spend money changing it–the appraiser said it was bad quality, but that’s kind of a subjective opinion. It’s not a perfect stone, but if a perfect stone isn’t that important to you the money could always be used elsewhere–after all it has sentimental value
Post # 12
@brklynmmbb: I have a similar situation as yours. I was given a family diamond a few years after we were married and was very grateful as we never could afford a diamond that size. I noticed it wasn’t as sparkly as my 1/3ct diamond but I thought bigger diamonds were just naturally less sparkly. I got an appraisal for insurance purposes and was surprised that the quality was quite low. And yes, I was fine with the diamond until I found the specs and it bummed me out. We talked about getting a new diamond “someday”.
Then…we bought a house…and we had kids…and the kids are getting older and need more expensive things….and the house needs things replaced. Right now I cannot see spending money on a diamond when I have a perfectly fine one on my finger.
So maybe for our 20th anniversary or something like that…maybe. I guess what I’m getting at is my priorities changed. I went from having to have a great quality diamond to being OK with what I have.
And seeing that our relatives are getting older, and that life is really short, I am happy that I have proudly worn this family diamond these years.
I hope you don’t think I am trying to make you feel ungrateful because that is not the intent.
I also wear different rings as my “engagement ring”. I wear the family one (mostly), sometimes I wear my original /official e-ring, sometimes I wear a sapphire ring I got after my daughter was born. I personally think it’s OK to switch things up. I’m not stuck on the physical ring itself, but the meaning behind it.