Would You Wait This Long

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 2
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m guessing she wasn’t bothered by it any more than he was. But waiting Bees should take note of this statement of his. 


“We were there! I mean I guess if I was chasing her, running, and trying to get her. You know, trying to court her. I probably would’ve been married,” Joe explained. “But we were there, always there. I mean I never missed it, the marriage.”

Post # 3
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think the times will change and more (heterosexual) women will start proposing to their male partner, since men seem to generally care less if they get married or not. I look forward to that day!

Post # 4
572 posts
Busy bee

No. If I was with someone that long with that many kids and grandkids, there would be no point in getting married. He could’ve proposed all he liked but the marriage ship still would’ve sailed. 

After that long what’s the point? 

Post # 5
4325 posts
Honey bee

No I wouldn’t have waited that long. He sounds like a real prize. Maybe he just figured out that no one is going to want someone who’s ill and only going to get worse over time.

Post # 6
1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I wouldn’t wait that long, but then marriage is important to me. It doesn’t say whether or not she cared to get married. I’d imagine she couldn’t care that much if she stuck around for 40 years without getting married. It sounds to me like he had a health scare, and it made them realize they should get married in case anything were to happen.

Post # 7
169 posts
Blushing bee

Supernurse :  That’s really romantic. I mean nothing says romance better than being compared to a house plant that’s always there vs a garden you have to tend to (shit metaphor but you get the idea).

(sarcasm by the way, the internet can’t read tone so here is your notification)

Post # 8
8582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

armychica06 :  

Yeah nothing  romantic about any of that ( never really thought  about it for 40 years, what crap)

I”m  assuming she was OK with it , and also that she’s OK with it happening  now he’s got COPD and emphysema  and  likely to need  serious nursing..

Post # 9
365 posts
Helper bee

Marriage is not for everyone. Some people just don’t see the point and maybe with a health scare he’s realizing how it can be helpfully to be legal married.  

I wouldn’t have waited that long. 5 years is my absolute limit. 



Post # 10
1244 posts
Bumble bee

Supernurse :  That’s the crux of it isn’t it, for most guys (unless they really wanted marriage), there’s no reason or incentive to get married if you’re already living the married life. 

Thats fine if you also don’t care about getting married, but sucks if you do.

Post # 11
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

She clearly wasn’t obsessed with the idea and didn’t see it as “waiting” and more like “enjoying the relationship as it was and enjoying him as a human without needing a piece of paper” – a lot of women I know are like that. Marriage is just a luxury to some people – an unneeded “pomp and circumstance” extravaganza. 

I’m happy for them 🙂 

Post # 12
2278 posts
Buzzing bee

sunburn :  this. Like, why the fuck would I anchor myself to you after you wouldn’t legally commit for 40 years? Just so I can change your diaper and wipe your ass when you’re so ill that you can’t do so yourself in <10 years? How convenient of him to ask just now…

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